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on 16 May 2010
A really good book for anyone in a relationship or working with relationships who's interested in how relationships can work better, it's equally good for self-help or for a helper. This book takes a very different approach from (e.g.) 'Fighting for your Marriage' (Howard Markman) or John Gottman's books. It's based on attachment theory which Johnson explains simply and clearly in just a few pages. Her approach is to define the self-perpetuating 'Demon Dialogues' partners get locked into, and to help the partners firstly to recognise that it's the 'demon dialogue' that's the enemy in the relationship rather than their partner, and secondly how to work together to stop the Demon Dialogue and to build constructive dialogues instead. An easy read, human and humane, very highly recommended.
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on 29 January 2017
Great way to get a summary of the method.
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on 21 April 2015
Finally. A book that not only explains love but can show us all a way of not only finding it but staying in it for life. Forget about fickle hormones it's all about secure attachment.
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on 19 April 2011
As a couple counsellor, I often recommend this book to my clients as part of the 'homeworks' while in therapy and the feedback from my couples is that it's a huge support in helping them change the way they talk to each other and deal with emotional distress. It's a wonderful book written by a highly respected psychologist, academic and researcher for the general public. It will really help improve your relationship with your partner and loved ones.
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on 11 July 2011
This book aims to help couples by focusing on emotional focused therapy. I hope to be able to work through it as I have two copies, one for myself and one for my husband.
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on 25 April 2015
Good to listen to. I listen to this in bed it's quite soothing
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on 25 February 2017
very good
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on 13 January 2016
Women narrator's voice is extremely annoying! Fast delivery though
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on 20 April 2017
Thought I would give this a try. First CD had no sound, tried on three different devices, they sent a second CD and it was the same. Waste of time and money.
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on 19 April 2011
A wonderful book, easy to read and understand. No jargon is employed here,so it's great for everyone to make sense of what goes wrong in our most important relationship. I read it a year ago, after ordering from the U.S. and couldn't put it down. I found the most helpful thing was understanding that it was the 'negative cycles' and 'Demon dialogues' that are the enemy, rather than each other, so you can stop blaming and feeling guilty and recognise the anger you feel is a measure of the hurt you feel about not being close but then the anger perpetuates 'the cycle'and it kicks off again! Everyone should read it!
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