I bought this book out of curiosity after just being bereaved and was glad I did. The book covers everything you ever wanted to know and more about the history of grief, and how that affects us all now. It is very easy to read and understand and covers; what to say (and not), the death of a child, how children grieve (very important and useful information for all of us), how different people grieve differently and what's normal (pretty much most things depending on the person) and when to seek help if needed. I was thinking of seeing a counsellor, but after reading this book I don't believe I need to. I think this book would be useful for everyone who is bereaved.
Grief is something that affects us all. There are many sources that share experiences with grief and provide advice on how to support the bereaved. Many of these sources, however, are either based on personal stories and focus primary on the emotional aspects of grief, or are academic, making them less accessible to the wider public.
The insights offered in this book are all based on research, and provide a balanced view on the complex reality of grief, that Lloyd defines as: 'the feelings, thoughts and actions we experience after the death of a significant attachment and the re-organisation and adjustment of our world without that person in it.’ In plain and understandable language, Caroline Lloyd discusses what grief is, how to communicate with the bereaved, how people grieve, how grief relates to our (mental) health, and how to support the bereaved. The case studies and practical examples bring the theory to life and offer valuable tools for everyone who wants to learn more on how best to interact with bereaved people. The book also offers an overview of further resources and organisations that offer support and information.
'Grief Demystified' is a must-read for professionals who work with the bereaved and is a comforting and reassuring companion for everyone who grieves.
As a funeral celebrant, I work every day with bereaved families. This book has helped me to deepen my understanding of the different and unique ways in which people grieve and to better tailor my communications and interactions to the preferred style of the families I work with.
It was such a relief to read this very well written and clear book on grief. My son died 10 years ago and so many times I have felt something wrong with me for not weeping and wailing in public or very often on my own for that matter. I can now recognise that I am an introverted intuitive griever! No one has ever pointed me in this direction or even mentioned such things as continuing bonds- the emphasis is always on letting go and living in. As a mother I don’t want to let go and move on! I feel a whole new level of understanding opening up. A wonderful book.
The book was recommended to me via Twitter, my daughter died and I haven’t found any books I can share that talk about grief in a practical manner - an excellent short read demystifying what it is about grief that makes people scared to talk. My friend recently widowed has found it very useful and she has passed on to her sons to read
I couldn't put this book down. As a griever, it was very reassuring to read this and realise my thoughts and feelings are normal. It's really interesting to see it from a professionals point of view on what not to say etc. I would thoroughly recommend this book for anyone who is grieving or who works with bereaved people.
This is a very readable book which gives an understanding of grief and how it affects people in many different ways ie there is no right way to feel or be and it gives much more. Would suit someone grieving, supporting someone grieving or training to become a bereavement counsellor.
If you are looking for a book that is not written from a personal perspective, but an academic, objective, research based one, this book is perfect.
The introduction begins by summarising the sociological environment from a historical perspective and frames the current narrative. Western societies have been criticised for being 'death denying' but the author frames this from an objective viewpoint and offers examples of how the environment is changing.
There are chapters on: 1. the history of grief theory, presenting evidence of where the myths of grief originate. For example. 'getting over it' was a manifest of Freud's early therapeutic approach. Modern grief theory is thoroughly researched and well covered and presented. The book also demonstrates evidence of the creation of new theories by the author. 2. How to speak to the bereaved and what not to say. This chapter is a valuable resource for anyone working with or interacting with a bereaved person. 3. An explanation of pathological 'complicated' grief. What it is and that this type of grief commonly needs counselling, as opposed to 'normal' grief. 4. How to support the bereaved; a chapter for professionals and self care, but helpful for anyone supporting the bereaved in any capacity. There is a summary of reputable organisations at the end of the book with online signposting for further resources and help.
Overall, this appears to disseminate research in an articulate format for anyone to understand and dispels any lingering myths surrounding grief.