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Friends and Enemies: Our Need to Love and Hate Hardcover – 4 Sep 2000

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  • Hardcover: 560 pages
  • Publisher: HarperCollins (4 Sept. 2000)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0002559390
  • ISBN-13: 978-0002559393
  • Product Dimensions: 22.1 x 14.5 x 4.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 1,428,143 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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‘Her appeal rests on a combination of clarity of vision, sanity, compassion, deep-seated rationalism and an eye, like Jane Austen’s, for social satire. Her work forces you to think for yourself, challenge received ideas and take responsibility for your own life’
- Linda Grant

‘Dorothy Rowe is full of robust good sense, rare intuitive wisdom and unhurried sensitivity. She pursues meaning, self-knowledge and understanding with patient ferocity. She is a giver of courage’
- Nigella Lawson

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One of our most admired and loved psychologists turns her attention to the essence of the good relationship, and why we need enemies as well as friends.

At the end of each of her books Dorothy Rowe describes how happiness and satisfaction come not just from achievements but from enjoying good relationships with other people. To date, however, she has not explored what constitutes a rewarding relationship, and in 'Friends and Enemies' she sets out to do just that.

But is human beings crave good relationships, they also need bad ones. In imagining we have enemies we at least have the comfort of knowing that someone, somewhere is thinking of us. At every level both people and nations seek out hate-figures, whether they are children at school or the Serbs and Albanians in Kosovo.

By delving into what it is that makes us hate as well as what makes us love and need each other, Dorothy Rowe addresses fundamental issues of human behaviour, drawing upon her own prodigious wisdom and the work of neuroscientists and intelligence specialists to show not only what friendship is but how it may be learned as a skill.

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By A Customer on 17 Jan. 2001
Format: Hardcover
Those readers familiar with the work of Dorothy Rowe will realise immediately that Friends and Enemies is more ambitious in breadth of research, theory and knowledge than her previous books. Geographically, the essays in the book range through minutely observed, intensely descriptive encounters with citizens of Northern Ireland, Kosovo, South Africa and Lebanon, to well-documented conversations with asylum seekers and refugees worldwide, whose stories of appalling trials and tortures illustrate Ms Rowe's primary premise. We need enemies as well as friends as both render our existence valid. As detailed in previous books, she divides human beings into two distinct psychological types, introvert and extravert, whose relationships may be complementary or antagonistic. These two types can be further sub-divided; I was fascinated to discover the "socially-skilled introvert" and the "shy extravert", each of whom may live life believing themselves their own opposite!
Each of us lives trapped within our learned observations and can never fully know anything or anyone outside of our own perception of the world, dubbed our "meaning structure" by Ms Rowe. Our relationships, individually and on a global scale are further complicated by what Ms Rowe calls "primitive pride", a defence structure whereby our learned defence mechanisms spring into action to protect our meaning structure from damage or even annihilation from other persons or even from ourselves. We work with the tool of meaning structure, which we protect with the tool of primitive pride. Individually, this can lead to intense damage in human relationships and to conflict and war between neighbouring communities and distant countries.
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Brilliant book by Dorothy Rowe. I'm a fan, and I immediately added this to my Kindle library, having bought it previously in paperback. For wisdom, good sense, sensitivity, and understanding, Dorothy has the knack of being an outstanding psychologist with a very clear insight into the human experience.
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