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Forgiveness and Other Acts of Love Paperback – 1 Jul 1997

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  • Paperback: 400 pages
  • Publisher: Viking Australia (1 July 1997)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0670873608
  • ISBN-13: 978-0670873609
  • Product Dimensions: 22.6 x 15.4 x 3 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 5,963,358 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Stephanie Dowrick, PhD, has the rare distinction of writing critically acclaimed fiction and non-fiction that have also been best sellers. Her books include Intimacy and Solitude, The Universal Heart, Choosing Happiness: Life and Soul Essentials, Creative Journal Writing and In the Company of Rilke. Formerly a publisher and founder of The Women's Press, London, she has for many years been writing, teaching and leading retreats on a variety of key contemporary spiritual, psychological and ethical issues while also working therapeutically with individuals and groups in a variety of settings. Stephanie has been writing the 'Inner Life' column in Good Weekend since 2001. Stephanie is also an ordained Interfaith Minister and an Adjunct Fellow with the Writing and Society Research Group at the University of Western Sydney. She has lived with her family in Sydney since 1983. --This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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This book is about the six great humane virtues - courage, fidelity, restraint, generosity, tolerance and forgiveness, viewed in a completely modern context. Stephanie Dowrick has written a compassionate and supportive credo for our times, a text that embraces contemporary psychotherapy, Sufi poetry, Indian mysticism and European philosophy. As she states in her introduction, the humane virtues include 'all the spheres of human existence: inner and outer; personal and social; psychological and spiritual. They are humble as well as awe-inspiring. They can teach us as much about beauty as survival; and as much through silence as through words.'
This is a self-help book with a difference, one that directs us back to the roots of sanity in the heart, in love, in wholeness, one that teaches us how to see ourselves in others, recognizing our own strengths and weaknesses, and realizing that our own suffering is also the suffering of others. By reaching out to others we can help both them and ourselves. And by doing so, we can also resolve the conflict between the self and the false self in us, following the teaching of Sri Sathya Sai Baba that who we are is made up of three persons. 'There is the one you think you are, the one others think you are, and the one you really are. Work towards making all three the same. Then there will be peace and bliss.'
In an age when most of the world's belief systems have reached a stage of near exhaustion, Stephanie Dowrick's humanistic approach to the problems of ethics and existence takes hold of the central qualities of virtue and shows their utter relevance to our time, and the far-reaching social and personal benefits they can bestow. Choice, self-responsibility and care for others are her principal emphases, and she writes with the authority and vision of a trained and experienced psychotherapist.
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By A Customer on 30 April 1998
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This is one of the most amazing books I've ever read. It's like a treasure chest - not something you read once, then put back on the shelf, but something to be slowly digested, savored, and worked into your life. Since the author draws on sources from many religions and view points, I think that everyone will probably find something they relate to. I know the book isn't written specifically for 12-step recovery, but it's greatly helping me in my spiritual journey.
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By DD VINE VOICE on 27 April 2006
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I picked up a copy of this book at the counselling centre where I work. I expected a very Christian take on the six virtues, but to my surprise Stephanie Dowrick draws from all spiritualities, to create a powerful, moving and thought provoking book. I believe that this will be a book that I keep returning to.
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At one time, organised religion's treatment of the topics discussed here probably reached a wider audience, at least in the UK. The task of finding one's own spiritual and moral path today may be less constrained by dogma, creed and articles of faith as a consequence of social changes in recent decades, albeit perhaps at a cost to each individual of requiring greater apparent effort in reaching a satisfying viewpoint. I believe that such a task benefits from structure.

This book might help to create such structure; the author's style seems helpful in enumerating and illuminating timeless moral virtues, leaving it to the reader to reflect on how to accomodate them within one's own personal philosophy. While professing no religious faith of my own, I imagine that the approach taken here may more frequently complement than conflict with many organised faiths, while remaining equally relevant and approachable to a humanist.

As an adjunct to taking moral inventory, I see no reason not to recommend this book.
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5.0 out of 5 stars A Masterpiece of Good Will - Masterfully Inspiring 11 Aug. 1999
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"There are beings who come to one to tune the music," said Anais Nin. Little could I have imagined that most profoundly would be met on an ordinary night, when I turned to open the first pages of "Forgiveness and Other Acts of Love." Stephanie Dowrick communicates with a depth of human understanding that is compassionate, confident, and purely optimistic. She penetrates far into the interior spaces where people live - and provokes a fresh view and artistry for life. With beauty and tenderness, Dowrick's voice resonates with an intimate reality that moves in keenly and reverberates out towards more thoughtful and honest living. There is a purity of love and human kindness implicit to Dowrick's moving inside and out of seven restorative virtues - a universal cord that is supportive and uniting. A benevolent connection with inner and outer worlds that feels charming, calming, unfettered, necessary, and right to embrace again and again until we brighten that embrace and begin again. And that's enchanting. And that's the power of this Author and the power of this Book.
Don't wait to find any copies of "Forgiveness and Other Acts of Love" left behind on train seats. Better you will find them on bed stands or loved in someone's hands - read and reread. Like my copy that is worn. I also highly recommend "Intimacy and Solitude". Thank you Stephanie Dowrick.
15 of 16 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An indespensable treasure for everyone!!! 12 Mar. 1999
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If I could give this book more then five stars, I believe that would still be an understatement to the emmense treasure house of wisdom that will profoundly effect any heart/mind open enough to allow healing guidance that is based in the human virtues that all of us possess and all struggle to work on strengthening.
This is a very personal statement to make, and is not said lightly.
I feel very deeply both intellectually and emotionally about the profound impact the privledge of reading her text has and will continue to have on my own world.
This book is a treasure of literature that should be read by any who seek to live a more tranquil, focused and meaningful life!!!
5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars a brilliant book that teaches kindness 13 April 2005
By oakiechicago - Published on
Format: Paperback
This is a book that I have read several times and recommended to many people with outstanding success. The author brilliantly combines psychological insights with genuine spirituality to discuss the humane virtues - including courage, generosity and forgiveness. She writes very well especially for this genre where so much writing is earnest and turgid - or banal. Stephanie Dowrick has extremely deep and useful insights but they are grounded in lives you can actually recognize. Her examples are deeply touching and bring massive hope. Also she writes with confidence about all kinds of lifestyles, and she draws on a range of great teachings, not just Christianity. I can also recommend her other books including The Universal Heart which is available only from Amazon UK for some reason. This is her most spiritual book but it will also appeal to people who are not 'into' spirituality simply because it is intelligent and contemporary and never,ever talks down to the reader or tells them how they ought to behave.She shows what works and her words have a lasting effect.
3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars A larger spririt 6 Oct. 2007
By Kangareview - Published on
Format: Paperback
We all need to spend time every day considering or dwelling on the better aspects of human life. We need to deepen our understanding and not take these things for granted.

This book is one way you can use to spend some time re-examining six of the great virtues: courage, fidelity, restraint, generosity, tolerance and forgiveness.

Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification (Seligman et al) charts a rapidly developing field that can demonstrate the benefits of these enduring virtues in protecting us against depression and mental illness.

Stephanie Dowrick's book takes a gentle look at these virtues using material from her own life and examples from people she knows. It's a gentle encouragement to strive towards these higher challenges and realise our potential as full human beings.
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars New Insights Into Old Virtues For Our Modern Days 1 Feb. 1999
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Format: Paperback
This book is a virtual treasure trove of insight and inspiration for anyone looking into examining the timeless virtues of old. Stephanie Dowrick calls upon her wealth of counseling and cross-cultural experiences to help shed new light into many of today's social disturbances. Using contemporary and ancient sources of wisdom to illustrate these virtues, one can see clearly how the lack of these elements does, in fact, cause problems.
In today's world where the boundaries of what's right and wrong are often blurred, this book helps clear the heart, mind, and soul of much confusion without becoming dogmatic or preachy. I'd recommend this book for Valentine's Day or as a gift to anyone struggling with any type of emotional issue or conflicts between the heart and mind. Definitely, a good read for any time or place.
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