This is a truly helpful book not just for people who suffer from horrible debilitating thoughts and feelings, but for absolutely everyone who is a human being! In fact I would describe it as the self help book for the person who thought they would never, ever buy a self help book. With Hazel, you feel you're in safe hands. She recognises our struggles great and small and shows such wit, common sense and lightness of touch, that her wise words comfort like those from a much loved friend. Look, she says, stop beating yourself up, we can deal with this, together. I defy anyone to read this book without feeling wiser, stronger and ready to move forward in a healthier, happier way.
This is the first time I've felt compelled to write an online review for anything, because this book really is that good. I picked it up by chance at Foyles a few months ago, and have slowly been working my way through each chapter since. It's definitely not a book to plough through, but rather something that takes time to digest and work through over some months.
The author introduces key concepts and tasks slowly and in a way that isn't too overwhelming, and writes in an approachable and down-to-earth manner. She mixes scientific research about how the mind works with personal anecdotes, which helps to relate it to my own life. She's also included helpful summaries for each chapter and all the tasks, which makes it easy to go back and review things. I also like that she doesn't promise any miraculous transformations, but gives you the tools to take control of your own thoughts and feelings to incrementally build up an internal resilience that will weather life's storms.
I'm so pleased that I stumbled across this book, and wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone who wants to make a positive change.
I first came across Hazel when I interviewed her for a piece I was writing for a national newspaper and found her bright, engaging and funny so I had high hopes for this book. Despite that, it still surpassed my (high) expectations! Using real, relatable examples of problems from her own life and those of her clients, Hazel shows rather than tells the reader how to think differently and to approach everyday issues. Not only is the book very easy to read, whilst also covering a lot of ground (and offering something new on second read, I might add) it also treats the reader like an equal, not a subordinate like so many other self-help books do. Hazel doesn't profess to be a guru, just a really well qualified, articulate person who happens to have been through the immense challenge of boxing world tournaments and chronic fatigue syndrome. It's because she's so upfront about her struggles that we trust her throughout the book and that she's able to inspire with such electric force! This is the most empowering self-help book I've ever read. It well and truly stands up against the self-help giants like Tony Robbins if you ask me.
Utterly accessible without the slightest hint of condescension. It's as if you are joined by a new personal champion in chapter one that leads you through, page-by-page, showing you new tools to help you make sense of things.
Every time it gets a little overwhelming you look back to see your champion give you a supportive nod - just enough to nudge you into braving the next exercise with your mind monster. So powerful to develop something tangible to represent the part of us we're scared to engage with. If you can see it, you can work with it! A seemingly scary process sometimes, but being brave has paid off. The exercises are interspersed with little breaks of contextual nerdiness, giving you just enough science to really buy-in to the process. This book is a total game-changer!
This is a really useful, practical, and personable book. Hazel's writing style is lovely, and supportive, and it's an enjoyable read. The exercises are clear, and really help develop a better understanding and compassion for those things we do, repeatedly, where we get in our our way. And then we get to work that new insight into action, improved self-confidence, and better ways of working with ourselves. And it's this creation of lasting change that really solidified the 5 stars for this book for me.
What an amazing read! Would recommend this to EVERYONE as we all have something we are trying to deal with and Hazel's personal experiences just ring so true and you can relate to what she's saying. Fabulous book!
I hadn’t really heard of Hazel Gale before I read this book but knew she was a professional fighter. This book talks about her journey with anxiety and depression that she suffered with and how she used that to her advantage to now be a hypnotherapist to teach others how to fight their inner demons and be the person they deserve to be.
What I really like about this book is that it doesn’t preach to you and Hazel takes things slowly and gives you lots of chances to reflect upon what you have learnt through the activities. I really like the concept of mind monsters and have been using this in my daily life to try and improve my social anxiety and depression. Well done Hazel for creating a brilliant book!
Unlike other 'self help' books this is far from patronising. It's founded in science and shared through the lens of Hazel's personal story. Written with humility and humour, you not only connect to Hazel's story but can draw parallels from it to your own situation, whatever that may be.
We are all 'fighting' to overcome the barriers we impose on ourselves - whether that is to achieve something specific or to just be happier in general. You don't have to be boxing fan or a sportsperson to connect to the material, it's helpful in all kinds of situations, from corporate, to personal relationships.
A really enjoyable, thought provoking and genuinely helpful read.