Codependency For Dummies Paperback – 26 Apr 2012
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From the Back Cover
The tools you need to break the patterns of codependency
Codependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from generation to generation. Codependents have trouble accepting themselves, so they hide who they are to be accepted by someone else. Codependency For Dummies offers assistance in understanding the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself.
Are you codependent? discover the typical symptoms of codependency and take a self–assessment questionnaire to determine if you′re a codependent
"De–Nile" isn′t just a river find out how you′ve denied someone else′s behavior, your codependency, your feelings, and your needs and how you can overcome it
Find your voice and take action get the tools you need to communicate assertively, set boundaries, bring positive experiences into your life, and cope with relapse
Put the "I" in independence put your new–found self–esteem into action by setting goals and pursuing your passions
Don′t go it alone reach out for help and support with Twelve Step meetings, retreats, psychotherapy, hotlines, and shelters
Open the book and find:
Characteristics of codependents
The importance of making recovery your first priority
Functional and dysfunctional family systems
How your upbringing could have led you down the path to codependency
What letting go and detachment entail
Tips for learning to value yourself
Childhood wounds that need to be healed
Break the pattern of conduct that keeps you in harmful relationships
Create healthy boundaries, coping skills, and expectations
Eliminate feelings of guilt, blame, and responsibility
Heal a dysfunctional relationship
About the Author
Darlene Lancer, MFT, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, having worked with individuals and couples for 25 years. She′s a consultant, author, and speaker on relationships and codependency. Find her blog and more at darlenelancer.com and whatiscodependency.com.
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Top Customer Reviews
I highly recommend this book as i have found it more beneficial and detailed than many months of therapy, trying to figure out where my poor self esteem comes from. The book offers guidance and, more importantly, hope for anyone who has codependent traits, i have taken it to my new therapist and we will be working on some of the chapters together (Lancer suggests joining a group or having one-to-one therapy sessions alongside self improvement). Starting with a thorough and balanced breakdown of the term 'codependency' and how it has been used (even offering viewpoints against the term), the book then navigates the reader through the dense topic and what you can do to start healing yourself and setting healthy boundaries in your relationship. My favourite bits are the parts about finding your voice and discovering how YOU feel about things, as i have struggled to get this from the therapists i have tried.
Will definitely be referring to this throughout my life as this is an on-going process of self development.
I understand dependency as a way to avoid intimacy with one self. Any book that tries to explain how we try to avoid communion with ourselves and give tips on facing our thoughts, actions, patterns, etc with honesty is very helpful.
Darlene Lancer also lists all the other people that have talked about co-dependency like: Melodie Beattie, Jonathan Bradshaw, etc.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Brilliant book very informative on the subject .And lots ideas to work through to get betterPublished 7 days ago by MARITA
Very interesting read for anyone interested in psychology/counselling.Published 4 months ago by Benjo
American publication but the information is very beneficial wherever you are. Quite a few grammatical errors which are irritating but it's fairly obvious what is meant in most... Read morePublished 20 months ago by clare