Baby Secrets: How to Know Your Baby's Needs Paperback – 30 Jun 2005
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About the Author
Jo Tantum is an extremely successful and 'in-demand' maternity nurse. Her approach to babycare is warm, empowering and reassuring, and makes for very happy babies, mums, dads, brothers and sisters.
Barbara Want is a writer and TV producer who employed Jo when she had twins and felt she couldn't cope. Jo was a miracle for Barbara, and together they share the techniques that will help any new parent with all aspects of caring for your baby.
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First of all, I tried the 'spaced soothing' a number of times, but I felt so uncomfortable watching my baby scream as I tried to sooth him that I soon gave it up, as it just didn't feel natural. I also tried the 'dream feed' for a week, as my baby was already going for a five and a half hour stretch in the evening so it made sense to do it, but after four days he was waking up soon after the dream feed anyway, so it turned out to be pointless and meant I was losing out on a couple of hours of much needed sleep too. My baby has had a lot of wind and as he was asleep for a lot of the feeds I couldn't burp him properly either, which made that worse. So, even though a lot of it didn't work for us, I do think putting a routine in place has helped in some ways. I like the predictability, and I really enjoy doing the bedtime routine Jo suggests, as does my baby. If I could recommend another book, it would be Kim West's 'Good night, sleep tight', which is a lot more gentle and has fantastic advice on sleep for children and babies of all ages. We used it for my daughter when she was 8 months old and it helped her get into a sleeping routine without controlled crying, I would recommend it to any parent over this book.
I almost feel sorry that Jo's routine didn't work out for us as I was so excited about trying it and held out so much hope it would work. Now that I've given up on it, the whole family are much happier, my husband and I have stopped rowing and our baby is sleeping a lot better.
With my first child, now 4, I was scared of using any "sleep methods" for fear of damaging him emotionally. For nearly 6 months, we had a baby who could only sleep on us and could only be put down (even awake) for a few minutes. He cried lots, sometimes for 2 or 3 hours in the evenings. We blamed colic, early teething, "over-stimulation" but could do nothing about it. We just carried him and rocked him and fretted about it. I cried lots too. It was such hard work and stole away much of the joy of being a mum.
I was determined things would be different this time so searched high and low for some advice that seemed good. The institution of the NHS (midwives and health visitors) offers nothing very helpful in this respect (No insults meant - I work with them and respect them greatly for many other things). I found this book and I think it's brilliant. So warm, simple and sensible. I read advice there I've never heard anywhere else, like how long a baby can stay awake for at different ages, and how much noise (not necessarily crying, just grunting and squeaking) and fidgeting a baby does while going to sleep - I always thought that meant they were NOT going to sleep so I would get them up and hence wake them up all over again.
I now have the most beautifully sleeping and feeding 3 month old, whom we put down awake (I really did not think that was actually possible and wondered why all the books talked about it). We started using this method at just over 5 weeks and it took a week of progressively less and less going back and forth to settle him. I'm sure it would be even easier if you started earlier. We were slightly half-hearted about the technique, eg. we didn't get a slumber bear and the room isn't well darkened, and it still works brilliantly. We have never had a "sleepless" night. Despite a case series of 2 babies not being quite enough evidence, I am increasingly convinced that much baby crying is actually to do with lack of sleep and that it is not "just what babies do".
The fantastic thing about a routine (and it really is not rigid; Jo says again and again how you can modify it according to your needs)is that you know pretty much when your baby will need a feed and a sleep so you can plan around them. If you need to have a day that is completely off routine, the baby copes really well and the great thing is you know if the baby is likely to be sleepy or hungry because you know what his or her normal pattern is. And he/she slips back into the routine easily the next day. It's also great because we put him down to sleep at 7 so we know we have an undisturbed hour with our 4 year old before he goes to bed.
I really really feel that this method should be promoted to parents - you'll all be happy! I wish the government would include it in their new parenting programme. It's good for the parents' relationship as well as for the baby. My baby is so happy and chilled - everyone comments on it all the time. He only cries if he's tired or hungry (or been sat on by the 4 year old or having his nappy changed) and we know which one it is because we know his patterns. In fact he hardly even cries - he just grizzles and we respond. Funnily enough, it's still "feeding on demand" - you never let them go hungry - you just nudge the feeds into a pattern so that they "demand" regularly instead of feeding every time they make a noise, just in case.
I'm rambling on. Buy this book - you will not regret it!!!!
I am unusual in that I have had two sets of twins, just 18 months apart. Add to that I am partially disabled and often need a wheelchair - and you will understand why finding something that helped my babies and me find sleep and order was essential. By nature I would have been more of an attachment parenting type: endless cuddles and sleeps all night in my arms etc. But it simply wasn't possible. And this book showed me how to guide my babies in to a sleep routine without causing distress. I am not saying there is NO loss with using a routine with newborns/infants. But the loss it MINOR compared to the huge gains.
Two of my four little ones have had terrible reflux. One badly enough to need frequent medical and hospital treatment. But by sticking with the guidelines in this book - whenever it was reasonable and humane to do so (not of course when the baby was sick or in pain), we all managed to get good sleep at nights. I would add there was little of no ''crying it out'' - whatever that means. But there was some letting the baby grizzle and stress release and also some letting them know in advance that you are leaving the room and gently and lovingly do so without hesitation.
Book is very, very highly recommended. Along with the Harvey Karp ideas of recreating the womb environment (swaddling and white noise) + using a Cocoonababy (expensive but worth it), our little ones were champion sleepers.
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