The Aware Baby Paperback – 1 May 2001
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Aware Parenting Institute
"The Aware Baby" (now translated into German, French, Dutch, and Italian) combines attachment-style parenting, non-punitive discipline, and acceptance of emotional release. For more information about this philosophy, please visit my Aware Parenting Institute web site. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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When it comes to babies, however, I think Solter takes her theory to extremes, and is in danger of being dogmatic. She argues that once a baby's primary needs are met, then parents should simply hold and listen to a crying baby. She argues that the need is often a "need to cry". I am sure that there may be times when this is true, and simply listening is the best we can do as parents. However, Solter suggests that babies have this need to cry often (e.g. daily), often citing birth trauma as an explanation. Of course, this cannot be backed up with any evidence. She says that babies may need to cry for many minutes, months down the line, to release repressed birth trauma. But I need to clarify here that she is not talking about a specific pain, such as might be relieved by a cranial osteopath, but the psycological trauma of birth. Personally I think that assuming a baby is crying for such a reason is extremely risky.
She also argues that an older baby (I forget the exact age, possibly over 6 months) who is waking for breastmilk at night, has most likely been emotionally repressed. The baby is waking up in the night to try to cry, and by not letting them cry the mother is once again repressing this need. I had to really think about this - perhaps it's true... but Solter doens't provide a grain of evidence for this theory.Read more ›
The many ways in which we discourage babies from crying are set out, and reasons why these could be harmful are given. I agree that babies often have good reasons to cry, and that to hold them lovingly while they do so is both comforting and affirming. However, I found it difficult to reconcile some of the principles of attachment parenting with the advice about encouraging crying. In particular, comforting through rocking, feeding, carrying, dummies, bottles, thumbs etc, is all seen as inappropriate, and as sabotaging the baby's need to cry. I think this argument is taken to far. For example, the advice to breastfeed infrequently (3-5 hrs) concerned me greatly. As did the way crying is described as 'healing', when in fact in is hugely stressful for a small baby, and unbearable to a nursing mother - for good reason. It seems unwise to give explicit advice that comes between a mother/infant dyad. The basic mothering instinct of comforting a crying baby is not acknowledged. Neither is the fact that American babies cry 24% more than babies elsewhere in the world, or that in some cultures babies hardly cry at all, by our standards.
The book is psuedo-academic in style, with very little current, published research cited to back up the ideas. Most of the references are simply other authors' opinions. In general I would agree with the basic premise, but I found the book repetitive, confusing, and narrow.
Now when I take my daughter to Nursery, parents and nursery-nurses alike tell me how alive and curious she is, how easy she is, how well adjusted she is. Thanks Aletha!
If you want an easy childcare system, don't by this book, buy a dummy and a cot with high sides. If you're prepared to spend the time with your child to hear their stress, to comfort them - yes even at 3am - this book is for you.
Put simply, this book tells the reader about baby's emotional world and needs, and how to care for and meet those needs, and thus how to care fully for your child.Read more ›
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That's a must have for everyone that has or will have a baby.Published 6 months ago by Edu Feliz Navidad
Great book. Lots of valuable information. proper life saver when you don't know why you baby cries and many other things.Published 6 months ago by Izabela Davenport
I wish I had been given this before my baby was born. It is based on sound developmental psychology and is a guide to help you develop secure attachments, connection and life long... Read morePublished 12 months ago by Rebecca
It's a must read book for every parent or anyone who takes care of babies. It is the first book of Aletha Solter, that has been very helpful to me on my personal and professional... Read morePublished 16 months ago by Evgenia Delikaterini
this is the most useful book anyone with a baby or child can read.Published 23 months ago by Pip Waller
It's like the Bible to me!! I was really frustrated about having a baby that cried like all the time feeling guilty and useless. Read morePublished on 2 Jun. 2013 by Anthi
different ideas about baby sleeping. Ideas seem to have a lot to offer. Bought for daughter and grandson; not really tried in practice. Read morePublished on 25 April 2013 by Wellbank
I can't recommend this book enough. It has changed my life, my relationship with my daughter for the better and it will have a very long effect on her and us. Read morePublished on 4 Dec. 2011 by belkis
This book freaked me out. Its hard enough to be a mother, but to worry about birth trauma, baby's sensitivity to your emotions, disappointments throughout the day etc is just... Read morePublished on 20 Nov. 2010 by PaleyGirl
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