- Format: Kindle Edition
- File Size: 1516.0 KB
- Print Length: 63 pages
- Simultaneous Device Usage: Unlimited
- Publisher: P. J. LaRue, Inc. (3 July 2014)
- Sold by: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
- Language: English
- ASIN: B00LIGL9FK
- Text-to-Speech: Enabled
- Word Wise: Enabled
- Average Customer Review: 6 customer reviews
- Amazon Bestsellers Rank: #1,329,697 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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PJ LaRue gives sensible, intelligent, worthwhile advice and although I found the book quite short, it is crammed with useful and important information.
Chapter headings include 'What Made Our Marriage Last?', 'Certain Rules Cannot be Broken', 'Don't Wait Until Retirement to Make Memories' and 'In Sickness and Health'. As everyone knows, communication can make or break a marriage and the author has another chapter on communication tips. With recommendations on handling money, division of duties and lots more, the book is just what husbands and wives need to nurture the love they felt for each other when they married first.
Having said all that, I have to confess I loved the book. Like all advice, one can take it or leave it. And Oscar Wilde already told us that the thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. That one should never use it oneself. I don’t agree although understand the sentiment.
P.J. LaRue explains her reasons for writing the book. She is aware of the statistics on the survival of relationships and observes that although her marriage seemed to have many numbers for not working, it has (so far for over thirty years). As people kept asking her and her husband for the recipe, that got her thinking, and as she is a writer, she thought she’d write a book about it.
The author’s advice is common sense, but not for that less valuable. She reflects on what she calls ‘Starter Marriages’ and observes that if there is no true commitment to a relationship from the beginning you might as well not even bother. If you’re going to give up at the first hurdle, don’t get in the race. She also emphasises the importance of communication, true communication, and she highlights the elements she thinks are necessary for such communication to exist: honesty, be open, listen, never trash talk, don’t play games, whisper sweet nothings, choose your words carefully, change requires self-awareness, change takes effort, compromise, tone, body language, golden rule and R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Other than ‘whisper sweet nothings’ I’d say they are very good principles to follow in any communication, but even more important when the communication is with your loved one.
If the advice is sound, as I say, what I found more touching (and it is a touching book) was how the author uses her own relationship as a yardstick and example of both the things to do and the possible pitfalls, the type of problems that relationships experience. She is candid and honest when talking about her personal difficulties and the trials that they have had to go through (and they’re still coming to terms with).
It might be that some of the ideas exposed in the book (yes, I’m talking about her stance on sex in relationships) might sound old-fashioned, and she herself acknowledges that, but just because something is old or has been said before it doesn’t mean it is wrong. You can always decide what parts of the advice you think should apply to you, but if you can be as selfless and insightful as the author is after you read it, I guarantee you will have a much better chance at making your relationship work.
I was given a free copy of the book by the author in exchange for an honest review.
Some of these anecdotes will make you smile, while others are quite sad. All of them have been carefully selected by the author to illustrate different potential relationship pitfalls, and how to avoid them if you wish to remain in a happy, long lasting marriage. To be honest, most of the advice is just as relevant to those who wish to remain in a happy monogamous relationship, whether they choose to be married or not.
A thoughtful gift for young (or old!) newly weds, but also full of valuable common sense advice for those at any stage of the "marriage road".
Now, if only I could also get my own husband to watch ballet by asking if he likes "tall, slender, pretty women"... As P.J.LaRue explains, marriage is all about compromise, not about winning battles but then losing the war! Her powers of persuasion are clearly better than my own on that topic!
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