Since 2006 I have recorded hundreds of conversations with friends and strangers. During each interview, I ask this question; 'Tell me about your success's and failures.' The recordings reveal the successful use similar methods to achieve wealth, happiness and security. Unhappy people fail to realise how their self-destructive attitude restricts their life.
My work guides the reader to discover the ways to become secure and happy. From the fictional to the self-help books the common thread is how to overcome adversity. I do not write from a personal perspective. My work is derived from talking to people and listening to stories about their lives.
If the reader sees's similarities in some of the fictional stories to their own lives, it is because we humans do make the same type of mistakes. We may be unique as individuals; our methodologies are variations on the same themes. For example; the act of theft is to take something which is not ours to take. The methods used to steal are as simple as a sweet shop theft to a sophisticated internet fraud. The outcome from being discovered is the same; we lose our reputation.
I enjoy listening to peoples excuses. Every failure has an excuse 'My friend let me down.' 'I was depressed, so I had an affair.' 'I could not help myself.' The fact is; the choices we make become our success's or failures. I do not judge or make a personal comment about the stories I listen to; I review my interviewee's stories and into one file I place successful lessons. In another, I file the restrictive practices of the worrier and procrastinator.
My books and essays centre on my 'Philosophy of Selfness.' Each essay contains subtle messages of how people succeed and there are clear indications of why individuals fail. Selfness is the life-long endeavor of understanding of one's essential identity. I am convinced anyone who decides to learn the skills and art of critic thinking will enhance their lives.
We read a story and relate to it, something within it affects our inner being. The reader could well see his mistakes in many of my essays. When he does, he can see how the adversity is overcome. There is a reason we read books, watch films and listen to short stories called songs. It is the association with right overcoming wrong. The woman absolved for her affair. A man punished for his crime. All fiction must have an association with the observer.
Millions of people feel they need an association with something or a situation. Believing position, possession, and wealth provides an identity. Other people desire wealth and possessions because the objects and money make other humans take notice of what they have achieved. I investigate ways of overcoming the need for greed in my work. Chase the ace of diamonds if you wish, I will keep the ace of hearts every time.