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"Don't forget to be master in your own house, but see that your wife is mistress.",
This review is from: Don'ts for Husbands (Hardcover)This charming miniature book gives an insight into 'the rules' of marriage just after the turn of the twentieth century. In spite of warning readers against being "too didactic in the home", feisty author Blanche Ebbutt wastes no time in telling men what their role and duties in the home are.
The book is divided into eleven chapters: General Habits, Personal Relations, Jealousy, Hints on Finance, Household Matters, Recreation and Holidays, Health, Dress, Hobbies, Food and Children. Whilst some of the offerings included are well past their sell-by-date:
- "Don't spend night after night at your club, leaving your wife alone to count the hours until your return."
the vast majority of the advice given in the book is as fresh as the day it was written, even if the language of the book makes it seem otherwise:
- "Don't think that because you and your wife married for love there will never be a cloud in your sky."
- "Don't forget to be your wife's best friend as well as her husband."
- "Don't be unsympathetic if your wife's worries seem to you to be trivial."
Some of the financial advice seems especially apt following the credit crunch:
- "Don't try to live on too big a scale ..."
- "Don't take a bigger house than you need just for show."
- "Don't live on the edge of your income while leading your wife to suppose that you have plenty of money."
although other pearls of wisdom do leave you wondering just what married life was like in 1913:
- "Don't sharpen pencils all over the house as you walk about ..."
Whilst I wouldn't recommend this book as a remedy for a marital problems in the twenty-first century, it will give many husbands something to think (and smile) about. It works well as a stocking filler, or as a wedding or anniversary gift for friends, relatives, or even your spouse (if they have a really good sense of humour). Oh, and *don't* forget to check out the companion volume, 'Don'ts for Wives', too!