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Not a good direction to go in...,
This review is from: The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr.Right (Paperback)
Not a good direction to go in...
The Rules is a short, trite book written for women on how to find and capture a man's heart, or, should I say, trap a man into marriage? It is written for women in their early twenties to early thirties. The book advertises itself as a working set of behaviors and reactions that make most women irresistible to desirable men. The premise of the book is that men are born to respond to a challenge as a natural instinct. Without that challenge, their interest wanes.
The Rules reflects a gaming philosophy. Will their techniques work? Possibly. But the relationship probably won't last as the games and manipulations will eventually be discovered and most women will gravitate back to what feels most comfortable for them. Then their courting relationship will fail or weaken dramatically.
Fein and Schneider have some tattered threads of truth woven into this flimsy fabric, but the taut strings are weakened by the pop philosophy within the book. For example, the authors argue:
* Don't call him and rarely return his calls
* Always end the phone calls first
* Don't read any books that counter the rules philosophy
* Don't see him more than twice a week
While the rules enjoys a strong polarized interest, its popularity stems from pent-up frustrations of women who haven't been successful finding a man to share their life with through other methods, coupled with amusement and repulsion of the material from others.
There are vastly superior books on dating.
The Re-Discovery of Common Sense: A Guide To: The Lost Art of Critical Thinking
Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right & Avoiding Who's Wrong
How to Date Successfully and Confidently