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A Genuine Godsend!,
This review is from: I Said No! a Kid-To-Kid Guide to Keeping Your Private Parts Private (Perfect Paperback)
"Teach your children well; give them a code that they can live by." -- David Crosby, 1969
How I wish this delightful book existed when I was child!
This is an IDEAL teaching tool of empowerment for younger children (preschoolers) about learning to recognize danger. It is kid-friendly without being condescending, serious without being frightening. This 32-page masterpiece is one of the lead horses in the child sexual abuse prevention race.
For many years, children were warned about the cliche stranger, but the issue of predators children knew was rarely if ever addressed. When I was a child, I honestly thought a double standard existed - improper touching was only frowned upon by one's caretakers if done by strangers. During those years, I wondered why nobody ever said if children had any recourse if they were confronted with "bad touches" by people they knew.
This book COMPLETELY dispels the myth of the stranger bearing candy, lurking on playgrounds and near schools if indeed he ever even existed. Statistics have shown time and again that "bad touches" are very rarely done by strangers! It is timeless; the message of assertiveness and respect for boundaries and the human body at large can never be over emphasized.
This book provides a checklist in the form of very clearly written examples of danger signals, e.g. bribes, gifts, threats that a predator or potential predator might use. Each time an example is given, the words "RED FLAG!" are used. The child in the example is supplied with good verbiage and to shout, "NO! NO WAY!" quite loudly so as to be heard. The crucial message of telling a parent or some other trusted adult is stressed along with the equally crucial message that abuse is not always carried out by strangers. In fact, abusers are very seldom strangers.
What sets this gem apart is that it asks "what if" questions and some of the questions include relatives, e.g. "what if your [fill in the blank] asks to see you naked and touch your private parts and offers to buy you a gift if you keep that secret?" THINK: DANGER, SCREAM RED FLAG! SAY: "No! No way!" Be loud and clear! DO: Get the heck out of there! Tell your mom or your dad something happened that was very bad." That is the refrain in this book.
Just about any possible scenario is given in this book. The child is reassured that what predators do or try to do is never the child's fault and it is important that the child go to a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY. Calling 911 as an option is also given. This book is ideal for children 2 on up. I cannot recommend it highly enough. It is something that I think all families and educators of young children will find extremely beneficial.