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Good - but no quick fix,
This review is from: Change Your Life in 7 Days (Book & CD) (Paperback)
This book is well written, concise and comprehensive. It will certainly give you a lift and make you reflect on the mental habits which undermine your effectiveness. It may even lead to long-term changes in your outlook and circumstances. It is therefore worth its price, especially if you're in a rut.
But I have a big issue with this and other NLP books (basically this book is pure NLP).
The point is that while many of the insights which NLP provides are compelling, changing one's mental habits is not the simple task that this and similar authors would have us believe. It would, to take a parallel example, be unreasonable to expect to hone our body to perfection in seven days, even using the most sophisticated physical training techniques available today. Small matters like genetic characteristics and deeply ingrained self-defeating habits also happen to stand in the way of such aspirations. Similarly, even though the techniques in this book are sound, it is even more unreasonable to expect to reverse years of ingrained conditioning and deep seated habitual thinking and train our minds to become paragons of positive thinking over a short period of time.
"Wrong!", the NLP camp protest, "change can happen in an instant". They seem to cite as proof the good feelings that flood through you if you close your eyes and pretend you're a millionaire (or any other state you wish to arrive at). But we can all play make-believe; when you open your eyes and everyday reality returns the euphoria subsides. The real trick is maintaining those good feelings, day in day out, and that can take some serious life-engineering work.
You will read numerous example of inspirational people who have lived by these principles and made a success of themselves. Ironically, for a book which claims to change your life in a week, many of the examples are people who took years of dogged determination to achieve success. These stories are uplifting, but they are stories from survivors. What I don't notice are accounts from people who apparently did everything right and still ended up bottom of the heap.
Now don't get me wrong, as I've already said the techniques presented here are powerful! I've tried them and I know they can change you. But you're going to have to weave them into your existing mental habits and thinking patterns, many of which have grown strong over the years, and that calls for some hard work over considerable periods of time. Read the book, it will undoubtedly give you an instant buzz, but once the buzz subsides you may find the book languishing on a shelf. Like any other 'change your life' routine, you're going to need to live it - there are no quick fixes and I think it's a little naughty of the commercially minded NLP brigade to pretend there are.
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Initial post: 9 May 2009 11:45:46 BDT
Chris Ray says:
Your summing up 'Self help books' pretty well, the end storyline of the message they are trying to put across, quick fixes may give you a lift but once you come down again, you'll be in exactly the same position if not feeling worse.
Is there any books that can completely change someone's self belief or perspective other than themselves???
Posted on 24 Jun 2010 09:21:44 BDT
Mr. Paul Gilliatt says:
Absolutley and NLP only changes your reaction to events, not the events or injustices themselves.
Posted on 22 Jul 2010 17:59:40 BDT
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Mrs. P. Schofield says:
I am toying with the idea of buying this book, so was interested in your revue. I thought you spoke very truthly about these self help books, especially the bit as pointed out by Chris Ray (quick fixes may give you a lift but once you come down again, you'll be in exactly the same position if not feeling worse). This is waht has happened to me. I was feeling on top of the world for over 8 months. My attitude, confindence and positivity was at the highest level, so why, now, 8 months later, am I back to feeling the same way again (if not worse). Nothing in my life has changed! I wasn't expecting a quick fix, but I was expecting SOMETHING to have happened.
This is why I was about to buy this book (maybe I needed an English self help book instead of all those American ones).
Your revue was helpful, but I will give this book a go!
Posted on 1 Jun 2011 08:54:34 BDT
Amazon Customer says:
Could you tell me what NLP stands for?
In reply to an earlier post on 1 Jun 2011 09:30:52 BDT
Mr. Paul Gilliatt says:
Neuro (or natural) language programming
In reply to an earlier post on 11 Apr 2012 12:33:52 BDT
Ian Daniel says:
Its actually Neuro Linguistic Programming. But agree about self-help is on the hole a big myth. For the main, the only people making money from 'new-wage' info like this is the author or practitioner. Humans know very little about the brain as of yet and the basic philosophy of most NLPers/ practitioners is, 'something's work for some people, some of time'. Its very much hit and miss. Ask yourself 'do you really have a problem'. I think not.
Posted on 17 Jul 2012 16:57:40 BDT
Paul Stevens says:
Outstanding review, you've pretty much summed up my opinion of self help material like this book. I'm not saying they're bad but they have an annoying habit of misleading people into believing these are miracle cures (what I call magic pill syndrome).
To be fair I will also add that I think NLP on the one hand is cursed by this magic pill mentality but at the same time is unfairly criticised.
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