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Authentic Valentine from the hearts of America,
This review is from: Men in Love (Paperback)
I enjoyed reading this book. It's the pepper to go with the salt of her earlier work, My Secret Garden, but it can be enjoyed in it's own right. Nancy Friday has collected the sexual fantasies, desires and perceptions of American men. However, if it's titillation you want, you're money would be better spent on something else. This is a serious study on men's sexual imagination, with theories offered to how and why men fantasize.
In contrast to Nancy Friday's book on women's fantasies My Secret Garden, I found this book less shocking in content, almost predictable in parts. This has a lot to do with being a fellow man; women may be shocked by how some of these men ‘love’ their women. The other remarkable thing is how much better written the stories are, I put this down to the contributions being entirely by letters rather than the mix of letters, interviews & taped chats that formed MSG, but I expect it also reflects the greater confidence that men had with their sexuality at the time. This even allowed an occasional erotic moment that I found absent from the women's contributions.
The psychoanalysis is handled far better than the earlier work, including input from some professionals, and gives an even-tempered, more objective study, in contrast to the often axe-grinding, ‘this-is-personal’ stance that flavoured My Secret Garden. Occasionally, Friday does lose the plot with the subjects she feels least comfortable with (sex with animals, BDSM), often starting on a fresh point of view before concluding the previous one. However, for the best part her analysis is clear & makes good reading.
There's a delicate and sweet finish on the sexual perceptions and fantasies from virgin men that gives a nice feelgood ending to the book. Definitely a book worth the time to read.