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This book has changed my life- I am free and in control of my own life at last!,
This review is from: Living with the Dominator: A Book About the Freedom Programme: 1 (Paperback)
I bought this book and it has changed my life.
I could never understand or pinpoint what was happening to me by my partner. I was depressed, unhappy and couldn't get out of bed in the morning. He never actually hit me, but he didn't need to, he was mentally controlling me through, blackmail, guilt, anger and intimidation.
This book is enjoyable, clear and concise. On every page i recognised something that was happening to me. It was though i woke up and a light bulb had been switched on in my head, i suddenly realised what was happening and i started to get angry, how dare i be treated like this and taken for granted.
When i started to say no, and confront what was happening things actually got worse. Eventually he admitted he had a problem (after 7 years) and tht really he didn't want to be that kind of person anymore.
This book has educated me, i can now describe in words what has been happening to me. I have regained my own life, I can do what i want when i want, and i dont care what he thinks anymore, last week i went to a nightclub for the first time in 7 years without him.
The old me is coming back and i cant believe i have wasted my life trying to please a man who really has been emotionally controlling me for years.
And to not slip into my old ways, i recap this book every week or so.
Buy this book - it is fantastic!
**************** UPDATE 2014 ****************
I wrote the above review 5 years ago in 2009!
Eventually I took my 2 children and left him and went to a women's refuge in another city (to get as far away as possible) I then came back to London to another refuge. Finally after 11 months of living in hostels (living in a single room with 2 kids is not easy!) I was set up in a new home. Then I completed a law degree and at the same time I opened my own business. I have had 2 injunctions on him in this time. He's still the same person, but he's got a new girlfriend now...(thank god).
It was the worst and the best times of my life, all at the same time! I have done more in the last 5 years than what some people do in a lifetime. Fight for your happiness!
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Initial post: 7 Oct 2014 16:13:09 BDT
So happy to hear your story. Good for you, what strength that must have taken :)
Posted on 1 Aug 2015 18:04:24 BDT
Thank you so much for writing this. It has been my life's work to get this information to as many women as possible and it is really encouraging to read this feedback. It makes everything worthwhile. The message you send other women is invaluable. You tell them not to give up! Brilliant.
Posted on 18 Aug 2015 14:12:20 BDT
Clare Stuart says:
Thank you. You have overcome so much. Now it's my turn! Thank you for sharing your story with other women like me who are going through such awful times xx
Posted on 31 Mar 2016 16:50:45 BDT
You are an inspiration. As a survivor of abuse myself I can only tell you that you have given your children a priceless gift beyond all measure in getting away. You are truly brave. I sincerely hope your business thrives and your life is wonderful. I wish you immense happiness x
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