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The only people making real big money from this, are the ones behind it!,
This review is from: The Secret (Hardcover)The Secret is just the latest in a long line of Law of Attraction books that have been published through the years. I've read most of them, this one is a huge seller and made the author a millionaire because of the way it has been marketed. And it's a cynical marketing ploy too, and ruthless in its determination to be unopposed by any dissenting voices.
When I first heard about the LOA (Law of Attraction) I truly believed I had found the answer to everything and totally believed in its validity, only to look around many years later and see that nothing had actually changed. I didn't manifest the things I believed I would and don't know anyone else who has done so either. One friend who was singing the praises of The Secret when he first read it two years ago, has now given it away, completely disillusioned and feeling worse than he did before he read it and started following its 'advice'.
When all the affirmations, visualising, asking, believing, etc, doesn't work, or only in very limited or small ways, then the person who had grasped onto what seemed like the answer to their prayers, ends up feeling betrayed and without the false hope they had been given by this money-making spinner for the people selling it to gullible and vulnerable people, who, by their purchasing of the book, the CD, the DVD, the follow up books about what to do when it doesn't work or things go wrong(!) are putting money into the bank accounts of the people responsible for this 'spiritual marketing' as it is known in the trade.
When I see people unhappy because they believed in 'The Secret' only to find out much further down the line that it never delivered, that they never got richer, didn't look younger, didn't get the love interest they wanted, then it makes me want to warn others not to be sucked into it through them giving even more money to already extremely wealthy people. And make no mistake, when it doesn't work out how you believed it would, then they will tell you that you have done something wrong, or you must have blocks somewhere in your subconscious that need removing, (you can then buy more books to 'help' with this) or you need chakra clearing, (more books, and CDs too to buy!) or it must be that you need to love yourself more, because you can't love yourself properly or it would work for you.
Then you get told that you need to stop wanting anything and be 'spiritual' instead and believe that you have it all already, because once you get to that stage then you will be so content that you will realise that you have all you want already and won't need any more, because if you continue to want things, or conditions, then you just continue attracting more things or conditions to want, therefore you mustn't actually want anything! And so it goes on. I could say more and believe me I have long experience of dealing with these kind of people so I know what I'm talking about, but knowing how they operate, this would just get removed, as they are very protective of their money spinner and try to stop anyone from questioning it.
Just believe in yourself and try to think positive thoughts, (worrying unduly about anything doesn't actually change whatever it is you're worrying about) building up self-confidence and loving yourself truly and looking for anything at all you have to be grateful for, no matter how small, is the best advice I can give you, and I'm not charging anyone anything for saying that, or spinning it out into a whole book and marketing it in such a way that people will be sucked into buying it and making me very rich as a result of appearing to answer a need in people who are struggling.
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Initial post: 25 Jul 2008 10:46:37 BDT
The Book Collector says:
Thank you for a very honest and insightful review. I was just about to buy the dvd because it is one of a collection of books - like Rich Dad Poor Dad, The E Myth, The Laws of Attraction etc, that have been recommended to me by one group or another of wealth coaches / promoters. So it's good to have the 'other side' of the story.
Posted on 26 Jul 2008 03:48:43 BDT
Ronda S. says:
You're very welcome. I'm glad if I've been able to save you some money. I could write a lot more about my experiences with this rubbish and some of the people who try to push it, but I guess it's better to focus on the positive instead, there are good books around that deal with the Law of Attraction in a proper, practical sense, and the best I've discovered is by Sandra Anne Taylor, entitled Quantum Success, and another by her, whose title escapes me right now but focuses primarily on relationships. Both are very good.
Posted on 28 Jul 2008 16:05:25 BDT
Thank you, thank you, thank you, you've probably helped a lot of people, as well as saving them some money!
In reply to an earlier post on 13 Aug 2008 14:30:33 BDT
PHILIP MCNALLY says:
Good advice Ronda S.
Dont; buy the book.
Do: "believe in yourself and try to think positive thoughts, (worrying unduly about anything doesn't actually change whatever it is you're worrying about) building up self confidence and loving yourself truly and looking for anything at all you have to be grateful for, no matter how small, is the best advice I can give you"
Success is never guaranteed.
A helpful formula which I include in my book on being positve is Success= P x A x S x S
P =Positive Belief aka "Winning Mentality"
S = Skills
S = Strategy
One of the secrets of happiness is low expectations. Whereas 'the secret' does the opposite.
Happy people have an attitude of gratitude. Lots of other things help boost our happiness. My favourite
5 H.A.P.P.Y. Habits are;
H= Happiness is top priority
A= Altruistic kindness
P= Positive attitude
P= Positive health
Y= You love yourself & have close loving relationships
I hope some people find this tip useful. Any questions drop me line. I would be happy to help
Posted on 29 Aug 2008 17:46:21 BDT
Possibly the reason that The Secret or the other Law of Attraction books that you have read have not worked for you is because you really deep down dont believe what's written in them. Without that no change is going to take place, that applies to anything. I think its a shame to put people off buying this book because it could really have a very positive effective for some people. It's not the best book about this subject and in my view is the 'commercial' version but that is what makes it attractive to many and there is nothing wrong with that, or the fact that it has made Rhonda Byrne a millionaire is nothing bad either.
In reply to an earlier post on 30 Aug 2008 02:04:57 BDT
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Ronda S. says:
There would be nothing wrong with Rhonda Byrne becoming a millionaire from writing this book _if_ what it said actually worked! Sadly, it misleads people into believing they can have _anything_ they want, and this is not the case as some things are just not attainable, like people who want to be young when they are old for example, I know people who believed they could achieve this after reading this rubbish, only for them to be disappointed when, with time, their dream becomes even further away. I believed I would achieve everything I wanted only to look around three years on and see my dreams further away too. The same old reasons are trotted out time after time when 'The Secret' hasn't worked, and it's always that the people concerned are doing something wrong, i.e. cannot believe enough, or must have negative blocks somewhere, etc, etc. The fact is that some people might want to achieve things that this simplistic nonsense hadn't even thought anyone might want, but it leads people into believing they can achieve _anything_ anyway. That is my point. It is lying to people by attempting to make them believe something that is ultimately false. If it was honest enough to make a list of what people cannot hope to achieve and concentrate on what people can hope to gain, then it would be a different matter, but it doesn't do that, instead it gives people false hope, only for their hopes to come crashing down around them, years on, when they look around and see that they are further from their dreams than they were before. But of course 'The Secret' is not going to state plain facts; if it did that it wouldn't sell. As I said in my original review, I have experience of the kind of people who are pushing this nonsense onto gullible souls and I feel duty bound to inform people of the truth and to mention something better suited to using the Law of Attraction wisely, as in the book by Sandra Anne Taylor.
In reply to an earlier post on 12 Sep 2008 14:20:11 BDT
Most self help authors and perhaps all are the modern day equivalent of the Sophists in Ancient Greece who taught the Art of sounding and appearing to be wise in order to gain political power and influence.
Most of what they say is common sense marketed skilfully to make money for them. Dare I say it borrow the books. Pick up some ideas from them. Test them in live situations. And Keep it Simple. Avoid over-analysing performance and outcomes.
Posted on 19 Sep 2008 23:34:20 BDT
Ms. Joanna F. Dalietos says:
YAAAY hun you really tell it how it is....nice one.....love your no nonsense approach......I will NOT buy the book now....i was falling for the hype, but not any moreXXXXXXXXXXx
In reply to an earlier post on 24 Oct 2008 09:00:10 BDT
irene lamb says:
i agree the book i find good, the dvd no way. bought both with the calling of your true self which i found good it was perfect partner to the secret, dont buy dvd
In reply to an earlier post on 29 Oct 2008 00:17:00 GMT
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P. Butler says:
I have also read a lot on the law of attraction and cosmic ordering and feel it is a complete waste of time.......except that is for the people making a fortune out of the vunerable people.....Dont buy this rubbish!!!!