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This review is from: Committed: A Sceptic Makes Peace with Marriage (Paperback)I could relate to this book because I also felt the same about marriage. Once divorced, I couldn't imagine wanting to get married again ever. But I was faced with a similar situation in my relationship. I did not qualify to stay in Italy with my boyfriend and try and "make a life with him" so we were forced to get married for Immigration purposes.
Gilbert's search for the meaning of marriage is interesting because she explores other cultural traditions and opinions and leaves you with a feeling of utter confusion. I would like to think that this was a bit on purpose because it exemplifies exactly what she is struggling with, which is not wanting to fall into the North American dillusion that another person "completes us".
As North Americans we have a tendency to "romanticize" about love and marriage and yet this book hits the nail on the head from any "Government State" perspective around the world, which is marriage is meant to keep some sort of order in the world and community. But, at the same time, the rules of "engagement" is a shifting platform with the integration of education for women in otherwise secluded villages, the virtual world of the Internet, affordable travel and Expatriate societies sprouting up everywhere.
Gilbert never loses sight of the emotions she feels for her spouse (good and bad), but as a woman, she struggles with her sense of self and independence. She has taken a leap of faith indeed, but isn't everything in life worth having a bit of a leap of faith?
This book left me with a feeling that Gilbert's plight is not a solitary one. She has spoken for many in this everchanging world we live in. It's inspirational to know that she was not going to take orders from the State sitting down.
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Initial post: 28 Apr 2010 09:38:09 BDT
Ms. Hm Grundy says:
hello leah im helen. after just reading your review on elizabeth gilberts commited, i decided to contact you, (which i do hope you do not find inappropiate) because our situations could be similar. i too, live with my italian partner in the north of italy (actually 40 minutes away from genoa) and the discussion of marriage is always present in our relationship. if ever you feel you would like to share some of your stories of how you and are partner solved certain difficulties, or even how you enjoy your time in italy.. i would be happy to hear from you! warm regards helen.
Posted on 15 Oct 2010 10:39:26 BDT
Rachel Romano says:
Me, too! Me, too! ;)
I did the same thing 3 years ago. I married my Italian boyfriend in order to stay here in north Italy with him. We've lived north of Turin until recently and are now in Aosta. *waving to my fellow expats*
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