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Distinguishing between Healthy Suspicions and Paranoia,
This review is from: Overcoming Paranoid and Suspicious Thoughts (Paperback)
This book unfortunately does not the address what is the elephant in the room in relation to paranoia and suspicions.
The fact is that the practice of psychologically intimidating and undermining others is an unfortunate but very real human trait. In fact it could be said that every human interaction is to some extent a psychological contest. Suspicions and paranoia have their functional basis in intelligent appraisal of stimuli but sometimes, yes, you are being picked on.
The goal should be to learn to separate the wheat from the chaff i.e. where to draw the line between psychological vigilance and natural awareness and unwarranted suspicions which lead to paranoia. Rather than 'Overcoming Paranoid and Suspicious Thoughts' it might be worthwhile to refocus the book as 'Distinguishing between Healthy Suspicions and Paranoia'.
The point is that sometimes it is correct to conclude that others are trying to undermine you indirectly - such as a boss unjustifiably harshly criticizing your work. Their ulterior motive could be that they don't like you for some reason or are simply being malevolent or bullying. Another example could be someone making pointed use of words in conversation which they know carry a loaded meaning for the other person or another person within earshot i.e. such as emphasizing 'fat/ugly/mental/mad/gay' or related words when a targeted person is present.
This dynamic is also a major factor in behaviors such as racism, mental illness stigma and other types of discrimination. As well as deliberate uses it is actually an intrinsic part of human nature to call to mind negative as well as positive words and ideas which relate to other people in present company and to verbalize some of them.
Additionally much of the humor in life is through ridiculing others. TV shows such as 'Mock the Week' specialize in this. But the point is missed that psychologically dominating others is part of human nature and takes place everywhere 24/7 to a greater or lesser extent. Often this is motivated by simple spite or through seeking an advantage over others - life is competitive. The vast majority of verbal bullying is done covertly and indirectly in the form of innuendos and plays on words. It takes the form of messing with the victims mind - 'mind games' some people call this.
The main point is that life and phenomena such as paranoia are more nuanced than books such as this acknowledge. Mental Illness accords to the natural law of cause and effect i.e. it arises because something causes it. There is a strong latent level of psychological pressure or tension in all social situations. Nobody is a saint and no interactions are neutral of affect.
Suspicions are a normal part of life, sometimes paranoia has a basis. The key is to see the wood from the trees and not let the flack destabilize you!
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I very much agree the suspicions are a normal part of life, sometimes paranoia has a basis.
I agree it is a key part to see the wood from the trees and not let the flack destabilize you, but I might put it another way and extend ii, thinking of other paranoia topics than you covered.
Coming from a political background, and a geeky type versed in the x-files etc - social paranoia isn't the only type to draw a line over. But maybe it's about the weight of evidence and also what it's sensible to do or to change. Sometimes I work on a quantum sort of thing - maybe they are watching me or bothered about me, maybe they aren't; they probably aren't, the 'sane' thought is that they aren't; but it's a common and normal concern both for ordinary people and for activists, and some of the evidence is that sometimes they are watching somehow. Being as ordinary and as true to yourself, carrying on as normal, is probably a good defence. And a better way to live a life. Sometimes amazing things are really true, sometimes they're true but not worth wasting your life over. But knowing your own dark side it's easy to let it slip into non-thinking repetitious worrying wastage. Be kind to yourself and to others, keep re-focusing to the prizes you might want to set your eyes on. Hope is not a major tenet in the recovery approach for nothing; and tenacity, to this end the same thing as faith really, comes into it.
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