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Insightful and well researched work on the world of the quieter person.,
This review is from: Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can't stop talking (Hardcover)
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Written by an introvert mainly for introverts, this is a good mix of research, reflection, anecdotes and advice that's also obviously quite a personal work for the author. It's well written, definitely thoroughly researched though at times feels like she's trying to justify the introvert's way of being rather than overtly celebrate it - perhaps just a reflection of the subtext of the book!
As someone who's clearly been a life-long introvert and also an experiences personality and psychometric profiler I was curious to see what the author's take would be on the introvert vs. extrovert debate. My impression is that she's writing from the point of view of an introvert who found herself vying for a place in an extrovert's world who then discovered more and more people like her. She refers to the 'Extrovert Ideal' a lot which seems to be a reflection of the fact she's US-based and statistically this is a more extrovert nation and culture with around 65% of the population measuring as extroverts, casting introverts into the minority. However, for the UK reader it might be a little trickier to identify so intensely with her experience as in the UK the population is split almost evenly.
My guess is that this book is more likely to be read by more introverted souls seeking to understand themselves and their power better - and I'll be recommending it to some of my friends! It would be a shame for the extroverts of the world to miss out on getting to grips with what's actually happening beneath the calmer, quieter, more placid surfaces of some of their family, friends and colleagues, and I'll be recommending that those friends then pass it on to the extroverts in their lives!
What I liked about 'Quiet' was:
- it's not a psychology text book and is more deeply personal, sharing people's experiences
- for those who are unfamiliar with what introversion is and the reality of the 'inner world' experience, it serves as a great introduction, whether you are an introvert or work with or live with one or more
- there's plenty of good research quoted to back up the author's reflections, ideas and recommendations
- it's written in an engaging and approachable style with no hyperbole or self-aggrandisement, unlike some self-help literature
- although she could rage against the glorification of the extrovert ideal, she doesn't
My criticisms (if you can call them that) are:
- it is definitely written from the 'introverts are the minority' point of view which in the UK isn't true in general, though certainly is true of some professions
- she has a very wide definition of the behaviours and preferences linked to introversion, some of which I don't wholly agree with and isn't used by the psychological community at large
All in all I found it to be a solid, informative and well-written exposition of the true, if quiet, power of introverts.
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Initial post: 12 Mar 2014 00:46:28 GMT
Last edited by the author on 12 Mar 2014 00:49:12 GMT
Andrew Norris says:
There's still a big extrovert bias in the UK. As parts of our culture are picked up from the USA now, whether we like to admit to this or not. E.g. as a computer programmer we still are often expected to work in open plan offices, despite most of us being introverts! Companies still over value meetings, presentations and brain storming. The quiet guy is still overlooked. Most of it is the same as she describes in her book, although perhaps not quite as extreme as in the USA, it is there in parts, esp. in business, where we seem to have tried to copy the USA in all aspects as they have obviously done well there in recent history. Funny now that asia is catching up, hopefully, this may change soon!
In reply to an earlier post on 25 Mar 2014 17:53:53 GMT
Sugarplum Fairy says:
In reply to an earlier post on 25 Mar 2014 22:55:01 GMT
Andrew Norris says:
in a restaurant, at the beach or especially in a pub -are not normally where introverts hang out. Look at all the houses and there may be 1 pub for 100 houses. Most of us brits are at home with a glass of wine and a close friend or two. Just look at the design of the houses compared to the USA. There is far less open plan here, much more privacy of gardens, and closed off rooms. Of course there are still plenty of extroverts about here and they will cluster in the places you describe. Most people in shops are very quiet, it's just the odd one making a big din.
In reply to an earlier post on 28 Jul 2014 21:39:44 BDT
Amazon Customer says:
Sugarplum - you are just hearing a self-selecting bunch of extraverts - and this applies to American people, French people, British, people, and so on. What you are not hearing is the quiet ones - the introverts. We are everywhere too, its just that we are not so obvious.
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