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Good book for certain people, but not for someone like me.,
This review is from: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (How to Help Your Child) (How to Help Your Child) (Paperback)
My son is 4year old and my daughter is 2yo. Since he was little baby, my son never say no, always listen and obey. Our sexond child is very diffrent, in fact i was expecting a girl to be easier to manage. People who knows me said i am very lucky mom to have a son like him, but then my girl is just completely oposite. That is why i bought this book, to understand more about how to speak and listen and understand the feeling of each kid. The result after i read this book, seems i am correct and perfect mother at all (i never thought ive done a right thing so far before i read this book), what i have done to my first and second child are exactly similar as the book suggested, but when i see my relationship with my girl, its hard... We are best friend, she loves me, she knows she must obey, but the point is SHE IS HARD TO HANDLE. So, i assume, DONT EXPECT YOUR CHILD TO CHANGE JUST BECAUSE YOU READ THIS BOOK AND PRACTICE IT AT HOME, EVERY ONE HAS CHARACTER, CHARACTER DONT CHANGE. my husband and i, now just accept it that we have challenging girl, and we will manage to continue doing the right thing and best, and hoping that she will turn a little nicer in the future. This book absolutely not for me, or you who has "character problem" either your character or the kids character. If your intention buying a book is because you have problem, than buying "character building" book is better than this book.
But, book is always nice to read, good lesson though.
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Initial post: 9 Mar 2012 00:27:17 GMT
wow a perfect parent.... congrats...
Posted on 9 Mar 2012 04:59:10 GMT
In reply to an earlier post on 1 Jun 2013 22:12:39 BDT
leidelisa in some cultures obedient children result in being the most successful and confident adults and hence strict parenting is put in place for the child's benefit. Obedient does not mean to force the child to believe anything just or un-just that you would want them to. It simply means that the child respects their parents and does not swear at them if they are angry or upset. Unfortunately in some developed countries although there are ticks in most boxes with regards to upbringing children but there is also lack of respect for parents from some children. This is less common in other parts of the world where stricter parenting is in place and children have been taught to respect their parents and the elderly. If they disagree then they will respectfully and subtly imply this and not in a confrontational manner.
Anyway, I found your comment quite harsh because you need to understand the fact that people from different cultures may have different values and you should not be so judgmental.
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