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A very helpful book in difficult times,
This review is from: When Bad Things Happen to Good People (Pan Self-discovery Series) (Paperback)
I read this book 4 weeks after my 17-year old son, Ibrahim Ditto, died on 24 November 2010.
My son was feeling very well and went to play basketball. He felt dizzy and next we knew he was in intensive care. Doctors could not find what was wrong with him and neither did the autopsy. We had to wait weeks before his body was released to us for burial.
I had some big why questions.
This book was very easy to read so that made it easy for me access at a time when my concentration levels were probably not at their best.
The book does present quite a paradigm shift which I continue to struggle with. Before I read the book I believed that God was all powerful and that he pre-planned everything. So in that sense what happened to my son was pre-ordained and there was nothing we could do about it. It was his destiny. This held some consolation for me (no guilt) but did leave me with the question why would God plan this for me - even if there is a higher purpose - it does seem quite cruel.
Kushner introduces a kinder God who does not necessarily pre-plan everything. In fact I finish the book with a much clearer definition of God ...God is the good in all of us, God is love.
As to whether my son died because it was his destiny - yes to some extent, but not pre-ordained by God. Rather, I believe it was due to chance and some bad luck - he happened to have suffered from something which we don't yet understand and therefore could not diagnose or treat. It is this same chance that has brought us a lot of luck in our life including the blessing of having a son like him.
I hope this review helps people with questions, to make the choice about whether this book will be helpful for them.
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Initial post: 22 Apr 2012 15:17:51 BDT
Your review has touched me. I feel for you and what you have been through. I am so sorry you have had to face tragedy but pleased that this book has helped you to understand some of the big issues people have with God when bad things happen. My faith would certainly be shaken and I admire you for your courage to continue and indeed to seek ways of helping others in your situation. Kind Regards to you and thank you for your review.
Posted on 23 May 2013 23:09:29 BDT
T. S. C. says:
This is a really good review, and I am sorry for the very real tragedy you have suffered; who wouldn't even in their heart of heart's question everything and question the notion of a loving God when such a bad thing happened? It's sometimes only when tragedy or a crisis of some kind happens, that it stops us in our tracks and makes us think deeper questions, and we realise that what we thought before was only something we never give much thought to at all. Is God bad for allowing suffering and tragedy? Of course not, but then we might ask, if He is a good God why does He allow people to suffer and die early for example? Not easy questions to answer at all.
And the big question; the matter of destiny. It was your son's destiny to be born and to be loved, but whether it was God's specific plan to take Him from you early, can anyone really truly answer that question? I wish you peace and happiness in your life and thank you for being so refreshingly honest; in that alone we might find some hope.
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