3 of 3 people found the following review helpful
Good but bit limited,
This review is from: I Never Called it Rape (Paperback)
Having read this book I still prefer the book; Real Rape Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male Partners by Patricia Easteal and Louise McOrmand- Plummer.
The book I Never called it Rape is interesting, makes some very valid points and analysis what I found disappointing was that it focused on the initial few days of dating or friends and not on dating relationships which have had more time to grow and have lasted more than few dates. It has almost all victims who resisted and who's rapists physically overpowered them. This to me still follows the stereotypes that even when date rape is acknowledged the victim must have shown resistance and with a few dates he is not a total stranger yet still not someone known to the victim as much as rape in date relationships where they have had time to get to know partners more intimately. It doesn't therefore look more closely at long term dating and rape through coercion and manipulation and where the victim may have submitted and not fought back which Real Rape Real Pain does. It had a few lines mentioning it but that was all, no actual examples. Also most of all the case studies are based on penetrative sex.
The book is informative I just think that Real Rape Real Pain covers broader areas and caters for rapes in a relationship of all kinds not dismissing the one's more subtle and covert. I never called it Rape was written before and like I said the statistics are educational and you can learn things from it but if you where in a long term relationship or submitted rather than consented or where manipulated and coerced therefore you didn't 'fight' back but reacted passively you will find little to valid your experience as rape which is looked at in greater depth in the book Real Rape Real Pain. Also most of the women in this book were 'virgins' and assaults happened in Universities whilst again Real Rape Real Pain caters for victims of all kinds and abuse experienced in more than one place. The victims have more diversity and there is a section of the different kinds of rape and rapists.