5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
How to deal with difficult people,
This review is from: Water Off a Duck's Back: How to Deal with Frustrating Situations, Awkward, Exasperating and Manipulative People and... Keep Smiling! (Paperback)
This book helped me a lot to question myself in dealing with difficult people.
How to take a better, more relaxed/calm, down to earth approach, and change how you react instead of trying to change other people (whom you canNOT change btw).
How to take a deep breath before saying irrational emotional stuff, still with good 'health warnings' that remind you to not exaggerate any of the advice. Exaggeration is never good for anything.
It helps you spend your energy more wisely (on the more important thins in life), and to view life in another perspective. Even helps you to control your way of thinking in a way.
The examples are also very down-to-earth and useful.
My personal fav. from the book is:
the using of - dolby surround super HD movie viewing - for positive events in your mind. And the - far away black and white fuzzy unclear broken screen - for negative memories.
How to cope with stress, manipulation, harsh persons, etc. it's all there! How to recognise manipulation or peer-pressure (just as important). And how to question these manipulations on the spot. Even use their manipulation to your advantage. React in such a way it's a positive outcome ideally for all parties, or at least yourself. There are always alternatives.
How to move on quickly from these energy sucking events.
Stay calm, question everything, and spend your energy wisely.
I also like it that he always writes in a positive way, doesn't wish difficult people bad things. He wouldn't want you to become a manipulator yourself, he wants you to use givens positively, give you some power-tools so you're not the victim. There's a difference. Also if it means to dodge 'dementors', or if you tried everything else, using one of you're last less kind resorts.
Most importantly, it's not written in your boring common average style. It's very fluent, easy to read, not too long. (With some typo's here and there, but hey, who's perfect). The message really came through to me.
A (starters) guide to happiness.
I definitely recommend this book for anyone who's open for new ideas.
Just read it ;-) you'll see.