I'm thinking of buying this book but does it talk about emotional literacy. Does it say that people should try to be specific and comment on the individual action / idea in terms of their emotions ? For example instead of saying ' I hate you ' it is better to say , ' I'm really annoyed that you did that, please don't ' -this is probably what is meant. It is just too easy to speak in exaggerated, generalized terms.
Instead of using name calling, swearing & metaphor ( saying someone is something else ) you can speak about your emotions.
Where the emotion is fury... I'm furious about this, how infuriating, It infuriates me that you said that, That infuriates me,
Where the emotion is amazement... I'm amazed, how amazing, this amazes me, amazing
I agree with Matt 5v 22 about not calling people 'you fool' because it is better to say, 'The idea you propose is foolish' but better still to explain the points that are in error.
I don't agree wholly with Matt 22v22 which condemns anger because there is a place for focused, proportionate anger. Surely we need to have some anger against abusive behaviour.
So do some of the chapters in this book address these issues & what are your views?