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Honest and raw,
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This review is from: Second-Chance Mother: A Memoir (Kindle Edition)
I am fascinated by the nature versus nurture debate and accounts of adoption can help us understand this argument further. This was a fabulously told story of a young women 'forced' to give up her baby at 19. An action she bitterly regretted. She registered her details with an adoption agency and was delighted to get back in contact with her son. Far from the myth that adoption is always a 'better' option for the child, her son was one of the unfortunate adopted kids, he did not thrive with his adopted family and this resulted in him having many 'issues'.
After an initial honeymoon period the mother and son started to see each other as they really were. The mother wanted the 'all American boy' not someone who she perceived as a rough red neck, the son wanted his mother to accept him for the flawed man he was, and harboured secret resentments towards her. It really is a raw and honest book, and bravely moves away from the sanitized adoptions stories of happy reunions we hear. As for the nature/ nurture debate, I think one of the clashes between the mother and the son was they were so similar without realizing it, and that could have led to some of their problems, or maybe guilt and hurt are too strong and cannot be overcome by familial love alone.