Customer Review

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Not as good as I thought it would be, 7 April 2013
This review is from: The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 (Paperback)
I have been going through a separation and a number of people recommend I read this book. I was also aware of the 'MAP' (Male Action Plan) that the book advocates, prior to reading it.

I think the way the book had been spoken about in reverential tones affected my view of it as the general feeling I had was it was good in parts, but could have been a lot better. Let me elaborate by saying that the concept of sex-ranking and how this affects relationships is covered very well and explained in great detail. The general MAP principles are also covered (but not in as much detail as I thought they would be). Some of the sections talking about why affairs happen was again fine. For this kind of book I quite liked the structure also, very short chapters made it easy to read and made it feel a bit more like a reference guide, which it is of course.

But there were problems also. I felt the authors tone at times came across a little smug, especially when crowing about how wonderful his sex life is with his wife. I feel there were far too many sections dedicated to his own techniques in seducing his wife, sending suggestive texts or co-ercing her to try different things in bed (which she always loves of course!). I think some of the sections are not well understood by the author either - the one that jumped out was in relation to polyamory or the swinging lifestyle...these get lumped in together by the author when they are completely different things altogether. His points in this section may have been relevant to polyamory but not to swinging, where the 'sex-rank' is irrelevant as the activity is undertaken by the couple together and no emotional connections are made.

The over-riding suggestion that everything is biological in nature and geared towards the producing of babies may be correct, but the author doesn't invest any time in trying to understand how similar issues are encountered by homosexual couples, or hetrosexual couples long past baby-making age. I'm not suggesting he hadn't considered this, it just wasn't really explained.

Finally at the end of the book, there is a brief biography of the author at which point it is revealed that not only is he is a gloriously happy relationship, but both he and his wife were virgins when they met and given that neither one of them have seemingly strayed from the nest, it does pose the question of how qualified he is regarding some of the issues being discussed.

Don't get me wrong. There is some thought provoking stuff in here, and some sound common-sense suggestions however the expectation that this was a must-read for self-improvement either in a marriage or for someone just leaving a marriage was wide of the mark, in my view.
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews 
Was this review helpful to you? Yes No

Be the first person to comment on this review.

[Add comment]
Post a comment
To insert a product link use the format: [[ASIN:ASIN product-title]] (What's this?)
Amazon will display this name with all your submissions, including reviews and discussion posts. (Learn more)
Name:
Badge:
This badge will be assigned to you and will appear along with your name.
There was an error. Please try again.
Please see the full guidelines ">here.

Official Comment

As a representative of this product you can post one Official Comment on this review. It will appear immediately below the review wherever it is displayed.   Learn more
The following name and badge will be shown with this comment:
 (edit name)
After clicking on the Post button you will be asked to create your public name, which will be shown with all your contributions.

Is this your product?

If you are the author, artist, manufacturer or an official representative of this product, you can post an Official Comment on this review. It will appear immediately below the review wherever it is displayed.  Learn more
Otherwise, you can still post a regular comment on this review.

Is this your product?

If you are the author, artist, manufacturer or an official representative of this product, you can post an Official Comment on this review. It will appear immediately below the review wherever it is displayed.   Learn more
 
System timed out

We were unable to verify whether you represent the product. Please try again later, or retry now. Otherwise you can post a regular comment.

Since you previously posted an Official Comment, this comment will appear in the comment section below. You also have the option to edit your Official Comment.   Learn more
The maximum number of Official Comments have been posted. This comment will appear in the comment section below.   Learn more
Prompts for sign-in
 


Review Details

Item

3.5 out of 5 stars (6 customer reviews)
5 star:
 (3)
4 star:    (0)
3 star:
 (1)
2 star:
 (1)
1 star:
 (1)
 
 
 
11.79 11.78
Add to basket Add to wishlist
Reviewer


Location: UK

Top Reviewer Ranking: 1,762,911