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Respect for mothers, respect for babies,
This review is from: What Mothers Do: especially when it looks like nothing (Paperback)
This is a really beautiful book - reading it is enough to make one feel that serenity is possible. The writer clearly disagrees with authors who write on maternal ambivalence yet the way she does so is so gentle yet firm that an atmosphere of respect is generated rather than controversy. Respect is also the hallmark of her writing about mothers and about babies. The book frequently quotes mothers; mothers realising how much their baby contributes to the mother-baby relationship and generally respecting how much their babies are individuals is a major theme. Respect for mothers too and the way their love and continued attention are vital to their baby. Respect too for the way mothers relate to and support and understand each other. Stadlen shows that even if a mother feels she is doing nothing while at home with her baby, by being the expert on her baby and understanding what her baby wants, noticing things that no one else would even see about the baby's growing ability to communicate or its likes and dislikes, she is doing something alll-important; the book values and supports mothers' skill and love - I wish it had been available when my children were babies but reading it made a lovely journey into remembering that time of my life.