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Didn't work for me...,
This review is from: Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness: A Self-help Guide Using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques (Paperback)
I had high hopes for this book after reading the glowing reviews on here, but it didn't live up to my expectations. It is very good at describing what it's like to suffer social anxiety and I found myself thinking 'that's me, I feel like that' as I read. However I couldn't get to grips with the solutions suggested e.g. if you are feeling self conscious, you can solve it by deciding not to. It takes a look on the bright side approach and suggests you think about the flip side of situations e.g. everyone's looking at me versus actually, noone is looking at you. The author also states 'being bullied can have lasting effects' and I found myself thinking 'yes, I know that thanks, but what can I do about it?'. This book was good at describing how it feels to be socially anxious but didn't help me overcome the horrible stomach churning tension and desire to run away from such encounters, nor the constant worrying and reflecting that goes with having social anxiety.
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Initial post: 13 Oct 2008 22:24:54 BDT
Last edited by the author on 13 Oct 2008 22:25:33 BDT
I was thinking about buying this book (I've looked at a few in the Overcoming series) but your review has put me off. I've looked at many booklets, leaflets and web print-outs on related subjects before and if I were to write a review about them I'd pretty much say what you've just said.
Posted on 15 Sep 2009 09:41:40 BDT
Amazon Customer says:
I completely agree with this reviewer. The whole book is a 'but look on the bright side!' approach. Unfortunately, its absolutes are often just as wrong as the social anxiety absolutes in your head. It actually gives humanity far too much of a fake, bright sheen than I can cope with!
Posted on 5 Apr 2010 14:10:33 BDT
R. Coldron says:
thanx 4 the review,like u say we are desperate for a solution/cure to our problem, its a crippling disorder which effects our evryday life so its kinda hard 2 look on the bright side!!!
In reply to an earlier post on 3 Sep 2010 11:52:51 BDT
Grahame Cossum says:
For the three posters above i would like to make a positive suggestion to you.
I am a clinical hypnotherapist and i work with people every day of the week suffering from social anxiety,and it is amazing to see the transformation in these people.
Hypnotherapy is absolutely effective for treating social anxiety,because it resolves the issue where it lives... in the unconscious mind.
Do yourself a lifechanging favour and book yourself an appointment with a qualified and experienced hypnotherapist,and if you are serious about getting rid of this learned behaviour....believe me you wont regret it.
In reply to an earlier post on 23 Jan 2012 11:41:14 GMT
A bit of self promotion never harmed anyone hey.. Obviously no therapy works for everyone, but CBT seems to have the widest evidence base.
Posted on 29 Apr 2012 16:50:26 BDT
Drawing safari says:
As the author states in the beginning, reading can help you along the way, but the best thing is to work with someone. Perhaps in your case you would benefit from having someone - like a professionally trained therapist or coach, working with you? good luck!
In reply to an earlier post on 26 May 2013 19:58:59 BDT
Hi Grahame not sure if in right catagory. I am highly sensitive. But can't manage well in social situations unless jive dancing or playing sport. I don't think I learnt the behaviour. I somehow need to manage it.
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