Get back together with your husband/wife...,
This review is from: Getting Back Together Again: How to Create a New, Loving Relationship with Your Old Partner and Make It Last! (Paperback)
I found that although the book states otherwise it is largely aimed at couples who were married at the time of the split and usually with children. It didn't really apply to my current situation as much as "How to Get Your Lover Back: Successful Strategies for Starting Over (& Making It Better Than It Was Before) - Blase Harris".. which is a better read for people who hadn't been in their relationship for a long time but did get to the point of falling in love with their partner, also the Blase Harris book has alot more advice on how to actually approach getting back in contact and how to behave on get togethers until they are ready to give it another chance.
This book focuses on how to make yourself better, more confident and less needy in the relationship. It gives alot of examples into couples who have successfully reconciled and examples of couples who entered into a premature reunion, so that you can see the benefits of waiting.
I found some of the plans of action difficult to do as they often ask you to fill it in for your partner or even show them to your partner, which is obviously be difficult if you aren't yet on speaking terms.
The chapters jump from whether or not you feel ready to reconcile to 'now that you're back together' without actually giving much on how to go about getting back together!
It seems that the writers largely rely on your partners realising what they've lost and insisting on returning, which of course in real life is not exactly guaranteed to happen. The majority of examples on this case involve one of the partners calling the other after a period of time and deciding that they made a mistake. As this is not likely to occur in a lot of relationships it is best to read a few other books on the subject.
The book was good at making me feel like it wasn't silly of me to have hope, if these couples can get back together after 4 years and other relationships than there could be hope for me.