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empower your children and let them grow up to know and trust themselves,
This review is from: Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves (Paperback)
I often find books that help but sometimes I come across a gem that is exactly what I was looking for. Often we know we are looking for something but don't know what that is until we find it.
This book is just that!
A friend lent me this book and it is thanks to wonderful people like her that I keep inspired.
I have a 20 month old boy who is very strong minded and adventurous. He strikes me as being fearless and seldom gives me the impression he really needs his mother or any "advice". It has never worked to impose ourselves on him and approaching the terrible twos I feared we needed to find a strategy to anchor to. I have found a lot more in this book than I could ever have hoped for, so wichever your childs charachter you will learn a great deal about what they are really going through.
Children have minds that work just like adults and if we teach them from a young age how to use them we will gain their respect their trust and set them up a gread deal better for adapting to adult life than if we impose our preconceived rules. Kids are clever and parents are afraid of this in case they make our lives difficult, so why did we have children in the first place?
This book will help you to validate your childs responses to life, teach them to understand their real emotions and deal with their upsets in life. You will learn about human psychology in a very simple and practical way. The book is full of every day situations we can all relate to, wether your child is 1 or 14 years old. you will be able to relate to this "neutral" way of giving total support. There is no imposition of yourself in this book, you give love and support through being there and putting your arm out when they need it and not by overdramatising and swamping your child. Often we forget that no mater how much we love and give support our childrens perception of what is happening might be rather different to ours.
I can say that in just a couple of weeks the tantrums are less frequent, I understand what is happening and feel confident I'm handling my son the right way. Our bond has become a lot stronger so now we are closer, he trusts me better and allows me to be his loving mother. Please read this book it is written beautifully!