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5.0 out of 5 stars My personal opinion, 16 Dec 2007
This review is from: The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You (Paperback)
I came across this book on a 2nd hand bookstall, and the title jumped right out at me - I had to have it! I had never come across the trait of 'high sensitivity' before, but knew it would be relevent to me. I had always thought I had a slightly 'defective' personality: instead of going out to noisy pubs and clubs, I'd much rather be reading a book, or watching a DVD, or having a quiet dinner with friends. But this is not cool when you are a teenager or in your twenties, especially in our boozy British culture, where even the girls are expected to be 'blokey' ie. drunken, horny and loud. Plus Id always been told I was 'too sensitive' by my family. I had a feeling this was somehow related to me being so different.

But as I read this book I was amazed. Not only did someone seem to understand exactly who I was and what I'd been struggling with my whole life, they were saying there was nothing wrong with me! Apparently I was normal, and there were lots of others like me. Being an HSP I now know is a positive thing, not a disorder. Like many other traits, there are pros and cons, but there is nothing 'inferior' about being a sensitive person. I realise there are many things I can do as a HSP, that the more thick-skinned 'normal' people can't.

Basically this book has validated a part of my personally that I was ashamed of, and has helped me learn who I truly am. It has raised my self-esteem just by reading it, and without having to do any tedious self-helpy exercises. It has also given me permission to avoid loud and smelly parties without feeling like a social reject. Thank you Elaine Aron!

If you feel that you are even slightly more sensitive than the average person, I think you will find this book invaluable. Btw the hsperson website has a quiz to see if you are an HSP, and some great free articles.

And since HSPs are very good at enjoying their own company, I will also recommend a brilliant book I have just read: 'Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto' by Anneli Rufus. For me it had similar uplifting and validating qualities as 'The HSP'. And it's very fun to read.
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Initial post: 1 Sep 2010 12:23:51 BDT
your review was what has helped me so much thank you.

In reply to an earlier post on 7 Nov 2010 02:24:41 GMT
shpadoinkle says:
Brilliant. thanks very much for commenting. All the best. :)

Posted on 17 Nov 2014 22:21:19 GMT
Reading your review was like looking at my emotions in the mirror. I have felt the same all my life and now I can't wait to read this book. Thank you for writing an honest opinion. Wish I could be friends with people like yourself. All the best.

In reply to an earlier post on 18 Nov 2014 05:39:47 GMT
shpadoinkle says:
Thanks so much for your comment! I also try to find other HSPs to be friends with but we are not easily found. Like badgers.
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