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A 'Must Read',
This review is from: Fat Is A Feminist Issue (Paperback)
I wish I had come across this book 15 years ago! It would have spared me lots of pain and wasted time!
At some point in my life, I lost 50Kgs over less than a year, and was able to maintain this weight for about 1+ yr. However, while I had the dieting under control, I had not resolved the emotional triggers that push me to reach out for food.. and also I was not prepared for the emotional 'consequences' that my new weight will bring. I could not handle the 'new me'/life and gave in to the comfort and security of food and put back 25 kgs in a short period of time.
Weight loss is presented in our society as the solution to all bodies issues. Little attention is given to the social and psychological motives behind overeating and binging, but here lie the keys to a long-term resolution of bodies issues (be it with weight loss or acceptance of how one is). 'Fat is a Feminist Issue' enlighted me with key concepts and provided 'support' to understand myself better, stop blaming myself and finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Suzie Orbach gives very insightful remarks on female psychology and practical help to resolve body issues. Several times, I felt 'how does she know that?' as I always thought I was the only one in this very well-guarded behavior.. It felt so good to be understood, and no longer feel alone dealing with eating disorder problems.
Her advice and practical exercises made me realize unconscious roots of behaviorial problems, and gave me the foundations to resolve them.
The only minor criticisms I have is that some feminist references made in this book are no longer valid in this day and age, or at least not to this extent. This book was written in 1978, so it is understandable. In any case, I still found them interesting as they helped me understand some of the factors that shaped my mother, and how this, in turn, affected me.
Also, while the book present in a clear manner psychological concepts and patterns of behaviors as well as exercises, it sometimes lack in practical tips on how to change your old habits. That said, this is the most difficult part and take a lot of time and discipline!
I highly recommend this book.