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This review is from: The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World (Kindle Edition)
This author is a motivated writer and he offers some insight from his years of experience as a psychotherapist. It is an interesting book to start to read and I guess (like me) there will be many who will read even part of it and say "That's me!". It is also good in that it doesn't shy off being a little critical of the 'gay club and hedonism culture' and that critique is probably overdue.
The book rehearses one single issue: that the isolation of gay teenagers leads them to buy into a misplaced 'shame' about their selves that haunts them later. Its hardly a new theory. But it is presented in a (slightly) new way.
However the book falls down quite a lot too: for one it's absurdly US-centric. All the 'examples' are from the US. There is no acknowledgement that there are gay men everywhere in every country in the world and a lot of the examples fall into the habitual trap of unwittingly exhibiting an ignorance of the world outside US borders. For a gay author that isn't great PR: There are vibrant gay cultures in Europe, Australasia and Asia that are not predicated on the US experience in any way at all and the author could have done at least some research to reflect the significant differences these cultures have on the behaviours and beliefs of their gay men. These differences are very significant given his use of the concept of 'shame' to found his arguments and he could reasonably have been expected to have known that this concept does not find ready equivalence abroad.