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on 29 January 2015
Get the Guy is both a superb book but also a terrible one!
As someone who's read Matthew's book several times, attended his events and been on his mailing list for years, I feel that there are some dangers to following his teachings and before I write about the benefits of this book, I need to point out the bad ones.
This book and several of Matthew's teachings are DANGEROUS because they firstly don't deal with the issue of emotionally unavailable men. Sadly, these days there are so many "men" who have emotional/psychological and even spiritual issues that are so deep that we as women have no clue how bad they are. In fact, most of the men we meet online/offline or anywhere for that matter will most likely fall into this category. I feel that Matthew's teachings fail to warn women of the fact that we need to be extremely cautious when dating and we need to screen these men properly before giving them an ounce of our time! Furthermore, what I dislike most about Matthew's teachings (both in his book and on his website etc) is that he places the onus on women to essentially chase men. We're supposed to wave at the hot guy we see, cheekily ask for his number or even buy him a drink. We're also supposed to get him to commit by showing that we're rare gems but what Matthew omits to warn women about is the fact that when we keep doing all of these flirty/cute things to lure Mr DreamBoy in, we end up being the victims of men who don't pursue us! The biggest danger to me was that Matthew insists that we can 'keep the guy' by doing a variety of things to encourage him to make a commitment but the truth is that we shouldn't have to do anything to make a guy commit. He's supposed to do the work!
Matthew's book is great for teaching women how to be more appealing/attractive to men and how to get more men into their dating funnel. It's BRILLIANT at that! However, it isn't great at teaching women how to attract emotionally available and secure men, or even, the kind of guys that will commit. Perhaps this is done unintentionally so that he can up-sell his 'Keep The Guy' programme to his newsletter followers for £200 a pop. If you are a beginner at dating and want to know how to attract a casual partner, boyfriend etc, this book is great! If you're shy and you want to be more confident at making friends, meeting new people and become more of a social butterfly, this book is brilliant! However, if you're looking for a guy who will pursue you, show non-stop interest in you and make a commitment to you i.e. marriage, then I think 'The Rules' and even, 'The Reverse Ultimatum' are better options.