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A book to hold your hand in difficult times
on 13 December 2012
The Grief Book tackles a subject that many people still find it hard to approach. At a time when those around are treating you like a damaged object or blithely ignoring your situation because they really don't know what to say, this book takes you by the hand and leads you through what happens when people grieve. Other readers have accurately described this book as a friend in grief; it acts as a resource to turn to, to work through and to live alongside.
The book guides you through different stages of your grief giving helpful suggestions of positive steps you can take for moving forward. There are key points at the end of each short chapter. These points help you to focus on the main message of the chapter, e.g. 'All we have is the here and now. Make the most of it.'.Then there are steps for acting on these key points. The steps are broken down into 'Baby steps' 'Bigger steps' and 'Giant strides'. The suggestions are specific, simple and most importantly achievable. They allow for gradual progression towards learning to live with your grief. Overall each chapter is kept short and concise, the points are made clearly without waffle and this is very helpful at a time when concentration is so hard to come by.
The authors have real life experience of dealing with grief both in a personal and professional capacity and this comes through strongly in the clear, gentle advice and the examples they use to illustrate their points. Throughout the book great emphasis is placed on the important fact that all grief is personal and that no one person reacts in the same way as another. The narrative is very accepting of all different types of reactions, attempting to explain where they might come from and that you cannot expect to control your emotions all of the time. By the end of the book you will have learnt about the authors' 'Living Through Grief' model and hopefully put it into action yourself and achieved your very own 'Catwalk Moment'.
I would highly recommend this book to anybody who has experienced loss and also to those with friends or family going through the grieving process. It not only helps you understand and accept your or your loved ones' reactions to grief but also provides clear advice for moving forwards as quickly or slowly as you feel able.