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4.0 out of 5 stars The Silent Marriage
Wish I had read this book a long time ago. It is so very easy lfor women to blame themselves for the difficulties in their marriage . Now we know better than to carry all the guilt. It makes a goodread and I would recommend it to all women in relationships
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2.0 out of 5 stars One-sided view of passive aggression
Well-written in a strongly emotive style, this short book (64 pages) has much to offer women who feel they have suffered from passive-aggressive husbands. The language and easily accessible style cuts right into the heart of the frustrations and anger of women whose husbands express emotions and aggression in a passive, indirect way.

However, there was some...
Published 10 months ago by Judy Croome


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2.0 out of 5 stars One-sided view of passive aggression, 28 Sep 2013
This review is from: The Silent Marriage: How Passive Aggression Steals Your Happiness (The Complete Guide to Passive Aggression Book 5) (Kindle Edition)
Well-written in a strongly emotive style, this short book (64 pages) has much to offer women who feel they have suffered from passive-aggressive husbands. The language and easily accessible style cuts right into the heart of the frustrations and anger of women whose husbands express emotions and aggression in a passive, indirect way.

However, there was some imbalance in the presentation of the subject. While the plight of these women was handled with deep understanding and solid support was offered, there was little attempt to understand the wounds of these men who have endured a double whammy: as young, sensitive boys the symbolic castration of their masculine essence by their emotionally domineering mothers and sisters, and a waning patriarchal society which has emotionally disempowered men as much as it has financially and otherwise disempowered women.

While the book does state that it's not an attempt to "fight fire with fire", there was an undertow of feminine passive-aggression in the pages. Take the example of the forum administrator's response to a male poster (Kindle location 456) - it was a masterpiece of passive-aggression, full of put downs, blame and attack. Here, and at other places in the text, I couldn't help but think of the words of "Do you hear the people sing" from Les Miserables. (Do you hear the people sing? Singing a song of angry [wo]men? It is the music of a people Who will not be slaves again! ...Will you join in our crusade? Who will be strong and stand with me? ...)

Instead of a rallying cry that whips up emotions, I suggest that a healthier resolution to the painful experience of a "silent marriage" could be found if more emphasis had been placed on exploring both sides of a passive-aggressive marriage to achieve a win-win result, rather than jostling for the superior position in a win-lose situation. It takes real inner strength to take responsibility for one's own happiness by acknowledging one's own wounds rather than becoming a "re-born victim" and placing all the blame for one's unhappiness on the perceived "oppressor."

While reading, I got the sense that, for a self-help book, there was a lack of professional distance and objectivity in the presentation. Thus, despite the validity of many of the issues raised throughout this book and some good advice offered, one should read this book with a conscious awareness that it appeals mainly to the emotions in a one-sided and (dare I say it?) passive-aggressive way.

Wounded women, seething with genuine resentment and pain, "[won't want to] wait a minute longer for things to just get better" [Kindle location 800-936]. Having been called to join the crusade of angry women, they will no doubt rush to take advantage of the resources offered to help them escape their passive aggressive husbands - by buying one of the books on offer, such as "Recovering from Passive Aggression" (at the discounted price of only $47) or by taking advantage of the (first) free coaching session.

Ultimately, I finished the book feeling less lonely in my thoughts about the differences in communication styles between men and women, but also sad that there is so much unresolved anger and pain in relationships which are, after all, the arena in life where we learn our greatest soul lessons.
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1.0 out of 5 stars poor, 10 Feb 2013
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This review is from: The Silent Marriage: How Passive Aggression Steals Your Happiness (The Complete Guide to Passive Aggression Book 5) (Kindle Edition)
anecdotal and loosely informative. read Closing the passive aggressive defiance gap by neil warner for a more comprehensive guide, it will make things seem easier
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4.0 out of 5 stars The Silent Marriage, 27 Jan 2013
This review is from: The Silent Marriage: How Passive Aggression Steals Your Happiness (The Complete Guide to Passive Aggression Book 5) (Kindle Edition)
Wish I had read this book a long time ago. It is so very easy lfor women to blame themselves for the difficulties in their marriage . Now we know better than to carry all the guilt. It makes a goodread and I would recommend it to all women in relationships
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5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding Resource, 18 Jun 2014
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An excellent short ebook concisely describing life with a passive aggressive husband - I resonated with everything in this book, the author has accurately described how it looks, how it makes a wife feel and how it destroys a marriage. Get this book if you even suspect your husband or partner is PA. It could save your marriage, if nothing else it will validate that you are not just making things up in your head but that it's a real thing, destructive and damaging. Brilliant resource.
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