on 27 January 2016
When you are victimised as a child a situation you may find yourself in, suddenly throws up a lot of repressed energy and that past trauma from that repressed wound is triggered. People who have suffered heartbreak and betrayal are understandably keen to slap a label onto the person who has hurt them.In these situations it is not so much the heart that suffered,it is the ego that was shocked and bruised and the ego scrambles to get back up by reading these kind of books.
The reason you are hurting so much may not be because of what he or she did. The reason might be that big wound in your soul that has been ignored your whole life. If you want to work out what went wrong with the relationship search inside of yourself first before branding the hurtful other a sociopath. People with absolutely no conscience or any warm empathy are pretty rare.
Most people suffer after being played & rejected due to inner child issues,almost everybody has an angry little child inside them who is out of his/her mind with rage screaming " I'm not loved how dare you!! ". That little child is not the soul, it is the ego, and it mourns the loss by slapping people in the face with labels because it gives the suffering ego a temporary fix of feel good fuzzy and a fleeting sense of being in control.
on 14 September 2013
I think this book is a "must read" for everyone in our society who has been hurt, puzzled, incredulous or even damaged profoundly by encountering the dark side of a supposedly "nice person" they know and may have trusted and may have even loved. These discoveries can be devastating.
Those among us who are sociopaths have made a lifetime's work of appearing to the world the way they want to be seen, and copying the genuine emotions of others in order to pretend they share them. But they do NOT. Their only concern is themselves.
This book deals with Love Fraud from these people, but they can be your friend at school, your workmate, a relative or a neighbour. They do not have to share your most intimate life. But you may have shared your secrets, hopes and dreams with them, and knowing how they operate will help you cope when the inevitable clearing up of broken crockery begins.
What I want to know is, what do the mothers of these damaged individuals contribute towards the way they turn out? What do we mothers have to learn from the awful results of getting it wrong? Researchers - get to it please!