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A life changing read
on 27 June 2014
I can't remember how I stumbled across this book but I'm a firm believer that each important book that makes a significant difference to our life arrives in our hands at the exact moment it is meant. I found it to be a book of the utmost importance for me but it turned out to be the second read through which was roughly 5 months after the first time that I truly listened.
For me, my outlook has always been that the main point to our life was not to learn how to love ourselves but to remember how we once did. I totally agree that you have to love yourself first before you can be of any benefit to anyone else.
This book is so valid in so many ways, not just the importance of continually affirming that self love but also there was much wisdom to be found in the info about the perception of the human mind (the rather radical schizophrenia treatment).
So, I read it the first time, agreed with much of it, finished it and put it back on my bookshelf. Then, months later I had re-embraced meditation after finding some short but profoundly spiritual meditations on you tube (in the past I used cd's but I would commit then for a while drift away as they were too long and sometimes, to be honest, a little boring. Anyway, while listening to one of these I had a breakthrough. In the meditation you have to repeat affirmations such as 'I am peace. I am success' etc. Now, in the past I had read books such as 'the secret' and I too believed that if only I could just shake this secret feeling of being somehow 'not good enough', if i could truly believe I had certain things then they would materialise, kind of like the 'say thank you as if you had already received it'. Well, there lies the key word, 'as if''. It is almost along the lines of fake it until you make it. I now know this was the wrong way, well, for me at least, because as I was repeating the affirmations (trying to fight the predictable stomach clench of resistance and unworthiness when making statements such as 'I am wealth'. As I said one, something shifted and I understood in that moment that I didn't have to strive for wealth or health or peace or success or anything outside of myself, that I was already all of those things. I saw that we don't have to look outside for anything. (I completely understand we are having a physical experience but that is how it felt..'
So, a few days later I grabbed this book again and read it, yet this time it wasn't just ' yeah that makes sense'. It was more like 'Ahhh, here is another piece of the jigsaw. Someone else's review said that this book was't the whole answer but part of it' and I wholeheartedly agree but I feel these are 2 big pieces of the jigsaw. Firstly, listen to what he says, love yourself, and mean it. This morning I woke up with a horrendous hangover. I felt truly awful. In the past i would have berated myself with that inner voice, this time I said out loud 'I love myself even when I have a hangover. I love myself even though I ate crap food' and I meant it, I wasn't just kidding myself. I still love my daughter fiercely when she stumbles. I love my soul mate whether he makes bad decisions or not, whether he drank the whole glass or the whole bottle, so why not extend the same courtesy to myself?
Kamal is right when he says 'meditate. meditate. meditate.' It takes you closer to home. It changes your brainwaves or something and suddenly I find I instead of freaking out at so called 'bad news', even if it's major, I think, 'Ok, where are the pearls of wisdom to be found in this situation, this tragedy, this pain? And you know what? I always find the gift. So, yeah it is an important book. I apologise if I have meandered through this review but the author is right. Love yourself, meditate and accept everything that happens because there is a reason and it is fighting it that causes the pain. There really is a place you can go where you are flying so high that you see everything differently. I don't say that lightly or contritely. I say it as someone who has been in the depths of crippling depression, who has had her fair share of personal tragedies, and yet I focus on the pearls. This book is one of those pearls x