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This book should be BURNED. 0 stars!!!
on 6 March 2016
This is the worst parenting manual ever written. I bought this book after the birth of my second baby. It was recommended to me by a friend as I was having some difficulty breastfeeding and just generally adapting to life with two children under two. I thought it might offer some useful advice. WRONG! There is one small chapter about caring for a toddler and baby, but it was no help to me at all. At no point do these routines give you time to properly care for yourself, your relationship or your other children. I almost went insane trying to stick to the routines because they in no way suited OUR life. My husband started to resent me and my 2 year old acted out because I wasn't paying her much attention, and I don't blame them. This book turned me into an angry, sleep deprived monster and it also allowed the baby to rule the house because everyone else had to fit in with a schedule devised by a complete stranger. With my first baby I was so much more relaxed because we just took each day as it came, and for the most part I made the baby fit in with what WE were doing. Not the other way around! And FYI she slept through the night from 8 weeks. However after reading this book I constantly questioned my judgement and I became completely strung out, stressed and anxious. Also what the author says about breastfeeding and how the cows produce more when milked at the same time every day blah blah blah is utter BS. I had difficulty from day 1 with breastfeeding and being on a routine did not help in any way. If anything it just heightened my stress and anxiety because I was constantly watching the clock instead of listening to my baby's cues. No wonder my milk depleted and the baby wouldn't settle! And again FYI my baby slept through the night from 12 weeks after I quit this cursed book and did it my way!! My friend who recommended this book to me also had difficulty with settling her baby, although she would never admit it because she treated this book like the Bible! By 12 months her baby was still not sleeping through the night even though she stuck to the routine like clock work, but she wouldn't give up following the book because she blamed herself. This book is dangerous for first time mothers like my friend who don't realise that there is more than one way with a baby, because the author leads you to believe that if her method is not working then it is YOU who is the problem! This book should be BURNED. There is always more than one way to do things with a baby and there is no right or wrong way, so if you do insist on reading this horrible book please keep an open mind. Just do what works for you and your family.