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Little in the way of analysis
on 9 May 2014
I have a lot of sympathy for Sarah, but if you are looking for a book which analyses her experiences against Narcissism, you will be disappointed. The book asserts that her ex was a Narcissist, but it does not tell us why: I would have expected it to have identified, in the context of the very detailed descriptions of their life, how his personality traits / disorder was revealing itself, eg magical-thinking; lack of empathy; displacement; blaming others; narcissistic rejection (Sarah); favouring only those who give narcissistic supply (his eldest daughter, arguably). So this book misses a trick. Read other books about Narcissism first, before you read this. You can then do it for yourself.
That said, I don't think Sarah wrote it for that purpose. She wrote it as part of her recovery process, and I entirely understand that. For the record, this book shows how utterly toxic relationships with Narcissists can be, and how difficult it is when you find yourself in one. It is not as easy as just "waking up a smelling the coffee". They are highly devious and manipulative people who are masters of deception - to themselves, primarily, but also to those around them.