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Wish I had read this book a year ago
on 27 November 2013
I have been (physically) free of a ten year abusive relationship for nearly 5 months. I say physically free because it will take a long long time for the emotional scars to heal. It is only through reading self help books such as The Emotionally Abusive Relationship that what I thought must have been my fault actually wasn't my fault at all. I was being emotionally abused. It seemed to start when I was happily recounting something one of my grown up children had said or done. He would hit me with his angry words and I would be sitting there with my stomach tied up in knots wondering where on earth did that came from. Then he would give me the silent treatment for a couple of days until things gradually got back to normal when the whole process would start all over again. I got to the point where I was afraid to even speak about my children. Then it was any of my family, friends, people I liked in the media. The endless put downs and name calling, even when I was going through cancer treatment, really got to me and it was at this time that I faced up to the fact that this man could not possibly love or respect me. I wasted ten years trying to make our relationship work, if only I had heard of verbal/emotional abuse maybe I could have seen what was going on and got out sooner. I think this book should be standard reading for any woman going into a relationship, especially if she has a feeling that things aren't quite as they should be. How many women I wonder either live with verbally abusive partners or have managed to get away but still don't know that the problem wasn't with them, it was with him.