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here we go again
on 4 July 2013
There are some interesting insights and good natured humour in this book but in essence it seems like many of the current books on behaviour.Each of these books tells you that their method will work as long as you follow it to the letter and I believe most parents are desperate to do so if they have difficulties with their children.In essence it's a "time-out" system, rather like Supernanny on tv.Where it all falls down for me is getting the child to the chosen timeout location.Surely the point is with really defiant kids that they won't go there and a whole new fight begins trying to get them to comply.
I brought my 2 children up trying to treat them as miniature adults, respecting them, talking to them and empathising with them and in their childhood this worked very well.I know that a time out strategy would have worked with little difficulty with them but it was never required because they nearly always complied.The author of the book suggests jokingly that there are only 3 children in USA like this but I disagree with his point.Social workers and psychologists have said to me that hitting and kicking carers/parents is normal behaviour but it all seems to fit with a pattern of accepting brattish behaviour.It's not normal behaviour and should raise concern.
I am now a full time carer for my grandson and he has enormous behaviour problems.I have tried the 123 magic method under another guise and the problem always arises when he has to go to time out.It usually produced even greater tantrums and violence and is completely inappropriate.The book does not answer this difficulty so I would say don't buy it unless you expect that your child will comply with the time out approach.