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Waste of time and money
on 9 July 2010
After years of being fed the lie that women in general really want men who are kind, caring, sensitive, helpful etc. - I finally woke up to the fact that so many of these women only want men like this for the "friend", the shoulder to cry on , the help at any time of day or night as required, the money and time, the person to bitch and whine to whine to while they complain about the "bad guy" they are actually having sex with. Time and time again my "nice guy" behaviour only meant I got stuck in the friend zone or was taken advantage of by partners. Yet despite all the evidence in front of me and the fact that I was taken advantage of again and again while being told "there's a wonderful woman out there for you" it still took far too long for me to realise that what I'd been brought up to believe was almost completely wrong. So much misinformation, and so many outright lies about things like the "patriarchy" and that women had had it so bad for so long. All the stuff about feminism and "equality" turned out to be meaningless - it wasn't a fight for equality I was supporting, it was the demand for privileges and rewards that weren't earned. Being a "nice guy" was basically being a doormat.
I've been reading some great sites on the web (such as Happy Bachelor, Angry Harry, MGTOW etc.) and have been learning about how I can improve my life and enjoy things more.
I bought this book as part of my desire to learn more about why the way I have been brought up to behave is not appreciated in general and what I can do to stand up for myself and get more out of life.
The problem is that a lot of the key concepts in the book are good examples for any guy to follow, but these can be read for free on the internet. However, layered on top of this are the writer's constant self promoting references to his therapy groups, cod psychology (nice guys only do nice things for other people due to a manipulative agenda - you can't do something nice just to help someone out) and a creepy obsession with what must be the writer's own massive oedipal complex. According to the writer a "nice guy" can't form relationships with women because of his mother fixation.
The information I read online is far superior, and more importantly only aims to inform and guide rather than selling you yet another delusion that the best way for you to improve is to pay for therapy.
I'm sure there are much better books on the subject and I advise you to look for them.