4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
on 3 October 2010
This is one of those books that you don't have to read as a whole or you can just read the parts that apply to you or anyone else, either way, in each chapter you can find something to relate to. The great thing about this book is the tips you can do for therapy of within your relationships. The book has been written with a good understanding of codependancy and speaks to you through constant positivity.
The reason for the four stars is some of the real case studies sound a bit too flowery when concluded....but thats just my opinion and doesn't really have much of an affect on the book.
25 of 38 people found the following review helpful
Co-dependency has become one of those buzzwords for our modern culture. Most of us use the term to describe someone who suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction. Therefore, when we think of co-dependency, we tend to think of programs like AA.
Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap states that possibly 98% of the human population is co-dependent. It's not lack of self control. It's not a disease. It's not even about the alcohol, the drugs, the food, or the people pleasing behaviors.
Co-dependency is merely the way that the mind attempts to adapt to its experiences. In the first six months of life, babies are meant to learn that the world is a safe loving place and that his or her parents will always keep them safe. Once they are assured of these facts, then they can start to explore the world in an increasingly independent way.
Unfortunately, parents aren't perfect. The majority don't even know how to give this sort of unconditional love. Most are too busy worrying about day to day concerns. So for most people, their psychological development gets stuck and they spend the rest of their lives trying to gain (or dampen the need for) that love, acceptance, and security. When they have children, their children continue the same cycle.