76 of 77 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An adventure in responsibility, transformation and growth
This book is wonderful! If you are ready to take responsibility for your life, face up to your limiting beliefs, emotional wounds and grow massively in all that is good, noble, true and decent and in the process give more love and receive more love then GET IT!! The power in this book is in doing the exercises, daily for seven weeks. That is a commitment but this will be...
Published on 15 Oct 2008 by Jayne
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Good intentions, but lacking full insight
I note that people who give these kind of books lower stars haven't really read them and those that rate it highly have all found their love. I've read it twice and both times, felt that the book is interesting but flawed. Without trying to sound arrogant, I started from a better place of awareness so there were few, if any, really surprising insights and little work to...
Published 4 months ago by Elspeth
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76 of 77 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars An adventure in responsibility, transformation and growth,
- I must be willing to grow myself beyond the person I am today
- we do not need to be with a partner in order to begin expanding our ability to give and receive love
- compassion, generosity and kindness transcend gender, title or the form of a relationship
- Importance of letting go of toxic or 'less than' relationships even if it means the risk of being alone
- whatever we think of and emotionally resonate with most is that which comes to us
- we do not necessarily get what we want in life - we do however get what we give our attention to
- The only way to resist the magnetism of unconscious patterns is to become fully conscious and thus activate the power of choice
- The first task of childhood is to develop a strong capacity to trust
- giving up our fantasy that our prince charming is coming to rescue us from our misery is a true initiation and a necessary passage to becoming an adult who is ready to give and recieve love
- Regardless of what is or not happening around us, love is something that we generate from within ourselves
- Good relationships require a tremendous amount of generosity, kindness, compassion and self-awareness
- We cannot expect in others qualities that we are not prepared to develop in ourselves
I heard about this book through reading about it on a review of a different book on Amazon.com. I read the reviews and decided to get it. The book is a real labour of love and provides the tools for doing relationship with your soulmate, but I would add any relationship would benefit. Plus you get to find out about Katherine's journey to meeting her own life partner.
I was doing this book while doing a juice fast for greater focus.
After the fast my sister said to me you have changed, you are more loving, sweeter, full of joy...
And I have been meeting some lovely men. I continue to sow my seeds, my harvest is waiting!
I decided to write my first Amazon review because this has had a huge impact on me (plus there are no reviews on the .co.uk site but loads on the .com site. Finding this book was a beautiful synchronicity as over the last 18 months I've been consciously looking at my values, what it means to be purposeful (Read Life on Purpose by Brad Swift)and also studying what marriage is really about. I decided I needed to find out if I wanted to be in a committed relationship and not let ambivalence make the decision for me, and if yes what tools did I need to be sucessful.
This is what Katherine wrote at the end of the book:
"In my work over the years I have come to see that people are divided into two categories. Those who want love in their lives and will faithfully do the work to actualise love; and those who want love in their lives but won't. Those who will do the work understand love as a creative action that they are free to choose in any given moment. Those who won't do the work tend to see love as a thing to get or as a place to hide out. I pray with all my heart that I have enticed you toward the former. For that is the fulfilment of my purpose in life - to ever expand my capacity to give and receive love with all those who cross my path, and to help others to do the same. You, dear reader, are the fulfilment of love for me. And now I beseech you to please pass it forward".
31 of 31 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Life changing!,
59 of 60 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for singletons! It worked for me.....,
I'm a professionally trained life coach and have been on personal growth courses all over the world. Aged 38, I'd also been single for 11 years, had never come close to marrying anyone and my biological clock was ticking so loudly, it was like a time bomb! I had decided I'd rather be single that settle for someone who wasn't right for me, even if it meant having children on my own. I was one of those women who people would meet and say "I can't believe you're single! How can that be?". Aside from being told my expectations were unrealistic, no one could offer me any explanation and I felt I'd tried everything conceivable! I'd been coached to death, had learned to be happy and contented as a single woman and to see all the positives, and yet I still had this yearning to share my life with someone.
The book starts off very gently. When I began reading it, I thought, this is easy peasy, though I was unsure about committing to something DAILY for SEVEN weeks! That was a big deal for me, but the author rightly asks, if you're not prepared to commit to seven weeks, how much do you really want this? Good point!
Within three weeks, I was starting to get some insights about myself that really surprised me, as I thought I knew myself very well. I had a very powerful conversation with the friend I was struggling with and it was a turning point for our friendship, which remains strong to this day.
The author warned that the exercises in the book would get harder and I thought they can't be harder than some of the personal development courses I've been on! I was mistaken and got completely flummoxed and frustrated by some of the daily practices. However, after days of wrestling with some of these things and feeling ready to quit, I stuck with it.
Little did I know, that just a few weeks later, I would meet "the one"! And I have to say, I was so grateful to have the wisdom in this book to refer to at this time, as it was quite an adjustment after so many years of singledom. Wonderful, scary, exciting and a bit of a head mush!
9 months on and it is better than anything I had been imagining in all those years of being single and, trust me, I had astonishingly high expectations!
What else can I say? It worked for me and I so hope it works for you too, because it really is fantastic to be with "the one". I guess I should finish this review by letting you know that we're getting married in January 2012!
22 of 22 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Helped me grow so much,
This book is a lot of work. I did most of the exercises and did find I had a block on some of them but with a lot of love and patience for myself I worked through it all. It took me longer than seven weeks to go through as about half way through I put the book down and had to have a little break. I think I was just taking everything in and really coming to terms with everything I found out.
So how do I feel now I've gone through the process? I feel so much lighter, less stressed. Happier, much more in tune with myself. It's affected my life in many aspects, I am so much more confident about myself and have noticed I am losing weight, spending more time with people I love and just having a much better, happier existence.
I have found so much love in my life I didn't even realise was already there and I opened my heart to my true love who appeared one day out of the blue (always when you least expect it!) I have never felt love like this before and am so grateful this book found its way to me. I am so in love and hope that this book can do this for others. I feel there are so many lessons about becoming your true self and finding love in so many ways that everyone should read it regardless of if they are looking for love or already have what they want in life. Its just about growth, we all have room to grow.
This book is amazing, I recommend it to anyone and everyone
18 of 18 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read for anyone who seems to be making the same relationship mistakes.,
Katherine's book has help me to discover that life happens through me NOT to me, and by completeing the exercises in this book, I was able to let go of the ghosts from my past that had been haunting me. I became happier in myself and my friends said that they had noticed a change.
I started dating again in June and after a few not so hot dates, I am happy to announce that I have found a man who is truly wonderful. Someone I would like to spend the rest of my days with and who feels the same about me, and my life is even more amazing.
I would strongly recommend giving this book a go, and whilst you may not acheive immediate results, they will come and be totally mind blowing when they do.
Wishing you all the best on this new adventure.
15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant Book,
15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars Calling in The One,
Worth a look in my opinion.
12 of 12 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Life transforming,
11 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Highly recommended,
This review is from: Calling in "The One": 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Kindle Edition)I am up to lesson 18 of this book and all I can say is wow! If you have come to the point in your life when you are willing to accept your part in the failed relationships in your life then this book is for you. I had reached that point and wanted to understand why I kept creating these painful situations and how I could learn to do things differently. Reading the book and doing the daily exercises, I have already learnt so much about myself and my own unconscious patterns that have sabotaged my previous relationships and feel I have really grown as a person. I know that by the end of this book I will really have a much better blueprint for healthier living and loving.
If you are still at the point where you blame it all on your partner then you probably won't get much from this book. It's not to say that we take responsibility for everything that goes wrong in a relationship or other people's poor behaviour, we certainly do not, but if we can look at and heal our own behaviour then we won't be so attracted to those destructive relationships that play on our unconscious wounds.
I really recommend this book to start your healing process and then to attract the love that you deserve into your life. Buy a notebook, do the exercises, they really help and can be very eye-opening. You're worth it and deserve the love that you have dreamed of!
10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Not a magic solution but very thought provoking,
The big surprise was that this is a beautifully written book that has real insight and depth. The author writes with honesty and from personal experience, and hits on things that I felt only applied to me so it seemed like she not only knew what she was talking about, but understood why and how bad things happen to good people in not so good relationships.
The exercises are short but meaningful. Only one chapter didn't seem to fit in with my personal experiences so in 49 chapters that's a pretty good average! My epiphany came towards the end of the book in the chapter and exercise on forgiveness. I was expecting to be bludgeoned with the same old 'forgive and forget' advice but was stunned to read that it's okay not to forgive immediately and that you should maybe think about forgiving yourself for not listening to your intuition, which is what got you into the situation you found yourself in in the first place.
There's also a different take on writing a wish list for the attributes of your ideal partner, and I won't forget the suggestion the writer made for her own wish list which was 'I like myself when I'm with him'. Beautifully put.
I finished reading the book today and I kind of miss the ritual of the daily exercises already. Seven weeks have flown by and have made me realise that I'm not ready for committing to 'the one' just yet, but I know I'm in a better place emotionally that I was when I started reading this book nearly two months ago.
So, unless I have actually called in 'the one' without realising it and our paths cross this weekend (!) I'm just going to live with what I've learned and read the book again in the new year, when I'll do the exercises in full rather than just in my head.
It's not an instant fix or solution to magic up a man, but the message is clear that if you want to find 'the one', then you have to open yourself up to being the kind of person that he's looking for too. Not by being more beautiful/in a better job/having more money etc but by accepting yourself and seeing where you block the right kind of love from coming into your life and staying.
Profound and moving, I'd recommend this book if you want to change your relationships for the better.
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Calling in "The One": 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life by Katherine Woodward Thomas