I have purchased two Richard Sapper 9090 Moka Pots in recent times and have really appreciated the superior quality of manufacture, I was satisfied enough to purchase another Alessi pot for use at work.
It does seem to be a well made item and I haven't noticed the problems mentioned in previous reviews.
There is no need to screw it together tightly. Just hand tight with a little extra nip is enough. No steam escapes, though a little coffee occasionally dribbles.
The handle isn't delicate - it's pressed and folded stainless steel. Although it is securely fastened to the pot, using it for leverage to screw the pot closed is obviously a bad idea, nor does it seem to be necessary. I haven't noticed the handle heating up uncomfortably either, used on a smallish ring at a medium heat it isn't a problem.
Unfortunately the handle is a bit to small and is uncomfortable, it may be difficult to grip if you have large hands.
Edit - over time the size of the handle has become an annoyance.
The lid - generally, I leave this open while brewing - it doesn't seem to get too hot either (If you leave it closed think kettle). The little thumb-tab is rather small but I can't see it bending in normal use (unless normal use means using pliers).
The coffee issues through a small slot in the side of the center column an arrangement common to Alessi moka-pots. Under certain circumstances the coffee will gush out of this slot with enough force to spray over the side of the pot, a bit startling, and possibly dangerous! Keep an eye on it while your making coffee and turn the heat down once the coffee begins to run.
On the whole I like this pot it's well made, good looking and makes good coffee. It does require a little common sense and caution. Take note too that Alessi spare parts aren't always easy to find.
Reduced rating to 3 stars - too many compromises between the handle and the poor lid given the price.