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I have now read a couple of Dan Hughes books and feel much happier about our own journey
on 4 March 2016
This book consistently gets rave reviews and on on many levels I am sorry for breaking the pattern. As a prospective adopter this was the first book that I came to and I read it with a growing sense of despair at the bleak picture it painted of someone constantly at the end of their resources with situations spiralling out of control. I felt I wanted more context, more detail when describing the related episodes to understand how it all kept breaking down, how it might have been done differently. I felt sorry in my heart for the author, but I also felt that her depression and lack of support meant that she wasn't consistently managing to make her son feel safe, which in turn was making him more testing and controlling, and this seemed to rapidly degenerate into a vicious circle. I read it with dismay, because I felt sure that for example, a child in an uncontrollable destructive rage should not be left alone until the following day, even if they do seem to have calmed down, but I couldn't see how the situation could be dealt with effectively. For me this made very hard reading. I have now read a couple of Dan Hughes books and feel much happier about our own journey.