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on 18 August 2007
I refer to this monthly and periodically search for specific advice on issues. I wouldn't say it's the only book you need - it's fairly clinical in style and some issues are dealt with in an agony aunt style (quite briefly). I use it in conjunction with Pocket Parent and Secrets of the Baby Whisperer for Toddlers. Between the 3 books I feel like a well informed and confident parent!
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on 1 October 2012
I borrowed this book from the library. It's so awful I feel compelled to warn other parents. (Bear in mind, I have an earlier edition, so there will be some changes in this newer one, but it won't have been re-written from cover to cover, which is what it needs.) The first half of the book is done on a month-by-month basis, like most pregnancy books, and the second half deals with more general issues. The advices is so unrealistic and impractical, it's guaranteed to make anyone who takes it seriously feel like a failure. The best way to explain is with excerpts:

On p. 170, The Twentieth Month: "By the end of this month your toddler should be able to dump an object in imitation (by 19 1/2 months), use a spoon/fork (but not exclusively), run. Note: If your toddler has not reached thsese milesstones or doesn't use symbolic play and words, consult the doctor or health visitor. This rate of development may well be normal for your child, but it needs to be evaluated."

ARE YOU KIDDING!??? If your child doesn't dump and object in imitation (whatever that means) by 19 1/2 months, see a doctor??? Good gravy. Here's another:

p. 478, Safe Food, Safe Water: "Wash fruits and vegetables thoroughly." Fair enough. "Wash the rind of a cantaloupe with washing-up liquid, hot water and a brush when you bring it into the house (the rind can harbour salmonella, which can harbour serious illness). Wash an surface that the melon touched before it was washed and be sure it's been washed before you cut into it. Also wash the brush you used to clean it in hot soapy water or the dishwasher."

You've GOT to be kidding me. And I could go on. If there were space here I could type example after example of paranoid, neurotic, guilt-inducing advice, because no one could physically follow all the guidelines laid out in this book, nor should they try. The section on eating lists weights and measures of every food known to man so you can have a religious experience with your scale weighing out every grain of brown rice your toddler eats and then panic when half of it ends up under the dining room table anyway, which is inevitable. It's just bonkers.

For a good text on child development I recommend Penelope Leach's "Your Baby And Child."
For advice on eating I HIGHLY recommend Gill Rapely's "Baby-led Weaning." (Still applies to toddlers.)
And for advice on toddler behaviour I recommend Dr. Christoper Green's "Toddler Taming" which is lighthearted, realistic, and encouraging, everything What To Expect is NOT.
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on 25 April 2001
I love this series. The books deal with most of the questions that I ask myself but the authors are never patronizing or militant in trying to force parents to take a set course. They are also not afraid to say when they do not have definitive answers, but always give solid advice in a non-biased way.
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on 16 July 2007
'What to expect the first year' was THE most useful book we found when we had our first child, so we bought this follow up expecting the same valuable info.

I don't know whether it's a reflection on how weak this second book is (or whether we're just more confident now that we've gained some parental experience) but we've barely dipped into this book. When we HAVE wanted to find out something, the book hasn't provided the information we've been looking for and to be honest we just look up things on the web instead.

I also think that during the toddler years, each child is so unique that there isn't a 'one size fits all' instruction book... whereas for the first year all babies are pretty similar on the whole.

I wouldn't bother with this one.
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on 19 June 2003
I found this book to be an excellent reference for toddler development. I also think this book is great for first time parents as it clues us in on what our children should be doing at a particular age, as well as gives sound advice about handling some common issues.
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on 8 July 2009
I think you have to understand (as the tone makes all too clear) that the authors of this book are American moms, and therefore have a demonic energy and capacity for hard work that is quite beyond the reach of us British parents. But honestly, if you took all the instructions in this book seriously (e.g. the obsession with hygiene: washing anything your toddler might touch in hot water with a scrubbing brush, as well as being endlessly available, entertaining and stimulating to them) there simply wouldn't be enough hours in the day and you would end up with a nervous breakdown. Which would be no good to the toddler or you.
In fact it is a good example of the kind of parenting manual Libby Purves sent up in her book How Not to Be a Perfect Mother. The important thing is knowing what you can leave out, and keep your sanity. Purves's book was the only one I took with me and my 8-week-old daughter when we went to Colombia for two months, and it worked just fine.
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on 5 August 2001
I have followed the What to expect series (First Year and Toddler) books and have found them excellent. I like their subtle tone as most of it is like my attitude to parenting (parenting is an important job and it should be taken seriously) although it's not patronising. If all parents even contemplated half of the advice in this book we'd see much better behaved and happier children. I have just ordered the What to expect when you're expecting as I hadn't found this series first timeround.
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on 23 May 2009
This book has many helpful features to aid you in navigating the choppy tantrum-fraught toddler years. The scenarios it deals with are the sort that you face as a parent and the solutions it suggests have frequently proved helpful. However, I find the list of milestones at the start of each chapter can cause me to worry about my son unnecessarily one minute and then convince me that I have spawned a child prodigy the next! Therefore, if you are something of a worry-wart like me, I suggest you buy this book in conjunction with something more laid back, such as Toddler Taming by Prof. Green, otherwise you could end up a nervous wreck!
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on 15 September 2014
This book met all my expectations, as did the other one "the first year". At first I didn't want to order it as some people wrote that it's not as good as first book, but good that i did. When I read this book, I understand that many mothers face same challenges as I do, which makes things easier. Otherwise, you may start thinking that your child is misbehaving and you may get angry for the things that would usual toddlers do in every corner of the world. What I really like also about these What to Expect series, writter gives you so many options to deal with different cases that one would definitely suit you. Though writter will also underline from time to time that you should read options as options and do not underestimate your own motherly instincs while deadling with your child.

Thanks a lot for such a nice book. It definitely helped me to be more petient mother.
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on 12 May 2010
I bought the first book, What to expect, The First Year and it was brilliant. Very informative. This book looks to be the same. Of all the books I've bought this series is by far the best. Its format is easy to use and it is easy to dip into it when problems or quiries arise. Highly recommended by this first time Mum!
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