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"Will had promised faithfully that he would be back for Christmas..."
on 2 March 2014
Subtitled: A True Story of Bigamy and Betrayal, this was somewhat hard to swallow, but Mary Turner Thomson was determined to tell her story in the hope that other lonely women would take it as a warning. You would do well to beware if you think someone you’ve met over the internet can be entirely trusted. Mary fell in love. She already had a small daughter and she was captivated by the man who responded to her message on a dating site. Will was everything she was looking for. Intelligent, good-looking, friendly and all too ready for a relationship. But right from the beginning there were gaps in their communications, when he came up with excuses for not attending meetings they had fixed up, or stressing his uneven work schedule. She was teased again and again by her family when he failed to turn up to meet them. Really, the signs were there from the beginning, his unreliability, unpunctality, excuses about not being able to get away from work.
Then he began to weave a story about his work that surely would raise doubts with anyone. He told her worked for the CIA and was trying to get away from the job, but his bosses were making life difficult, even down to being tardy with his salary. He told a story about being in Israel, at the Jenin debacle, and how it had made him see that he had to get out of the CIA. None of the things he told her were true, but she had fallen in love – she actively wanted all these stories to be true. She had two children to him – but he never even attended their births.
Mary ended up with her savings gone, in terrible debt, bailiffs knocking on her door, she’d given every penny she possessed to him, even borrowing money from relatives to give to him. It’s a shocking and awful story. Seeing him in the dock at the end of her trials, she knew from his whole demeanour that he felt nothing for her. He was a sociopath. He had no shame. What was even worse, he had been doing the same thing to various other women for at least 26 years. Read it and weep, and then avoid internet dating sites like the plague.